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Hey. I know how hard it is. I’ve also been diagnosed with agoraphobia linked to irritable bowel syndrome, which I’m also diagnosed with. I barely leave the house. What helps me is keeping my mind busy — for example, by reading. Though I don’t think that’s particularly good advice… it’s more like I’m avoiding the problem. But what I’ve done is adapt my daily activities to what I can realistically handle.
We have to keep going, even if we can’t see the light at the end of the road. Stay strong.
I've struggled with this same thing for a long time and was diagnosed agoraphobic over 20 years ago. The best thing I've found that helps is Virtual Reality. It helps me practice being brave in social situations in a safe space, which then allow the skills to translate to real life. Maybe try it? Even if you can't afford a headset, you can still try it out by playing VR Chat on your computer or Horizon Worlds on your phone.
Do you feel a disconnect between how you look and how you want to look? I don't have agoraphobia but I do have some social anxiety that has caused me to skip out on a lot of events and I would recommend getting it under control or at least understanding how to manage it sooner rather than later before it spirals. There's also a mantra I like to keep in mind when I feel overly self concious "those that mind don't matter, those that matter don't mind"
I’m fine with my visual appearance. It’s more that I have odd body posture/movements. My therapist has confirmed some of this.
I’m just a strange person in a place where strange isn’t welcome I guess. I’ve had things spiral before - there were periods where I wasn’t able to leave the house at all.
Understandable and I'm glad you already talk to a therapist about this. Can't really control how others behave so sometimes avoidance is the best option. Hope you figure your way through this and get to enjoy going out with your friends soon!