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Do you ever drink "strategically"? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by cheese_greater@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Just bought box wine the other day cuz I knew I had to have a super uncomfortable conversation that could not be avoided and I needed to be anaesthetized for it

It worked and I know in retrospect I really needed it to be that way

Edit/Update: person I had convo with just texted me and apologized for combativeness and I mutually apologized for not dealing with it sooner and we're along and on to solution mode. The system works, please dont drink if you dont have too but dont forbid yourself from using a tool to improve your situation and try to always be honest. The less you lie or hide, the less influence you will have to unnecessarily drink

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[–] ElectricAirship@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 weeks ago

It was 72 degrees wet bulb in my city a few days ago and I picked a cocktail with aloe vera, lychee, and other stuff bc I knew it would be more refreshing than something else

[–] grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

I do this every time I go visit my father. His wife is a crazy narcissistic loon and I just cannot fucking stand being around her, so I drink when I'm there because it's the only way I can tolerate being around her. But my dad drinks with me, so I dunno, our relationship has been so strained and awkward for so long, I think we both do it to ease some of that tension.

[–] Saleh@feddit.org 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I strategically refrain from alcohol or other drug consumption. And my life has improved drastically ever since.

Whatever the reason that you feel you have to abuse drugs as a coping mechanism, it will only make things worse. You will not be able to process your emotions, you will not be able to think clear about what is your best way forward and you will not be able to grow stronger while drugged up.

The fact that you say you "needed to be anesthetized" for an uncomfortable conversation screams that you are either already having a drug abuse problem and that you have issues with your emotional regulation.

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[–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Uncomfortable? I'd prefer caffeine for that.

Alcohol might compel me to say something I'd regret.

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[–] hoch@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

I bought a pocket breathalyzer so I can be right in the pocket

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