I remember seeing your line of posts about him, glad you're doing better. I don't trust second chances, but if you want this then just be careful :)
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he doesnt want me but i have trouble seeing him any other way
You deserve better mate, they sound no good at all. I'm sure one day you can find the right partner, but accepting an abuser to ease the short term loneliness will only do more harm.
thanks, he said he didn’t want me but he never abused me I don’t think…or maybe he did, idk
If you're unsure, you can always describe here what he did and we can try to assess, although remember that we would only be reading your side of the story.
well, he would one minute be affectionate, and the next, be unsure if he wanted me and say "let's break up". he also asked me to do stuff for him a lot or would be happy if i did but never did stuff for me. he called my interests "boring" or 'dumb". rude, but i don't think it's ABUSE
That doesn't sound like someone anyone would want to be with until that behavior improves. It doesn't have to be abuse to be unstable and/or unsustainable. Continual rudeness has no place in a long-term/lifelong relationship, right?
Just remember, they could have been nice the whole time. Just didn’t want to. I wouldn’t speak to them at all.