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[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 145 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

A love for women is the biggest risk factor for violent crime.

[–] neukenindekeuken@sh.itjust.works 49 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Alternatively, the qualities that make you lust after women tend to lead to more violent crimes.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 49 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Alternatively; crime is hot AF and the only way I've ever gotten laid.

Edit: doing sexy crimes that got people to momemtarily ignore the red flags. Not sex crimes. Not sex crimes at the time; we'll see what counts by winter.

[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 20 points 2 months ago (1 children)

This comment is fucking hilarious. Just imagining you writing this and then realising the implications is peak hahahaha

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[–] yeahiknow3@lemmings.world 9 points 2 months ago

There it is.

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[–] frustrated_phagocytosis@fedia.io 114 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Straight women probably commit way more crime but get away with it more frequently. I know I do. Also where are the bi criminals? Are there none? Did we just solve crime?

[–] TheRealKuni@lemmy.world 44 points 2 months ago (1 children)

That’s silly, imagining that people exist on a spectrum. Don’t you know everything in life is black and white, either or, binary?

The Kinsey scale only contains 0 and 6 for a reason. If there were any numbers between 0 and 6, people might think the world was complex and nuanced or something.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 months ago

I always forget which one is 6 and then guess wrong.

[–] germanatlas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 40 points 2 months ago

Psst, we’re using our invisibility to leave no trace while committing crime

[–] silasmariner@programming.dev 30 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Bi people are too emotionally fulfilled to want to crime

[–] _AutumnMoon_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I'm supposed to be emotionally fulfilled?

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[–] joyjoy@lemmy.zip 84 points 2 months ago (7 children)

"Be gay, do crime" is only relevant to women.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 46 points 2 months ago (1 children)

No we're just better at it.

[–] IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 30 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Better at talking about it without implicating ones self?

[–] Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Who's to say gay men don't do more white collar crime?

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

I jaywalk a lot, but they decriminalized it lately

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[–] frezik@lemmy.blahaj.zone 55 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Interesting because there's a very old gay stereotype that they're extremely violent. These days, it's usually that gay men are effeminate and passive, and I think a lot of people don't even realize this stereotype existed.

Baron Harkonnen and Scar (The Lion King) are examples.

[–] peregrin5@piefed.social 28 points 2 months ago

Jafar. i don't think these characters often represent violent crime though. more often just deviousness

[–] infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 21 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Captain Hook, evil dandy trope.

The Baron Harkonnen example is interesting because the author was admittedly homophobic when he wrote the character, but later regretted the choice after making amends with his gay son.

[–] Taalnazi@lemmy.world 19 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Examples of that older stereotype, you mean?

I'd never have guessed Scar were gay.

[–] frezik@lemmy.blahaj.zone 46 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Disney never comes right out and says these things about their cartoons. Ursula is based directly on the drag artist Divine, but you won't catch a Disney executive admitting that.

But yes, Scar is basically the gay uncle.

[–] UnrefinedChihuahua@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 months ago (10 children)

Not doubting, but can I read someone's commentary that explains this more?

[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 17 points 2 months ago (1 children)

https://time.com/6282514/little-mermaid-ursula-drag-queen-divine/

Ursula is pretty easy to understand, because that’s so 1:1 with Divine and there are direct confirmations.

With Scar one of the supervising animators, Andreas Deja, is openly gay (now, not at the time because it was the 90s) and has spoken about adding campiness and other gay influence to his work.

With other examples it’s a bit more difficult, because to understand it you need to understand how the Hays Code affected the portrayal of queer people on screen. The short version is that queer people weren’t allowed to be overtly portrayed at all, so any characters with queer coded behavior (by 30s to 60s standards) wound up as villains. As this becomes more entrenched in media, these mannerisms became shorthand for villain, so by the time the 90s rolls around the people referencing these tropes might not be familiar with their origin.

For the long version, see the documentary The Celluloid Closet.

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[–] adhocfungus@midwest.social 44 points 2 months ago (13 children)

I'd definitely believe the top two. My oldest sister seems to only date dudes that end up beating her, but my other sister has been put in the hospital by every woman she's dated. I know it's slim pickings, and rural Midwest lesbians have a lot to be mad about, but stop taking it out on each other! There are more deserving targets.

[–] Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 9 points 2 months ago

Jesus, I'd take a vow of celibacy at that point.

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[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 43 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)
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[–] PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 31 points 2 months ago

I hate the datamancer of this chart- if you have 'heterosexual men/women' the other bars should be labelled 'homosexual men/women'

And listing them alphabetically instead of by grouping or delinquency is also mildly irksome.

[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 30 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Commit or get convicted of (hint: its impossible to measure crimes commited)

[–] ChonkyOwlbear@lemmy.world 12 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Assuming this is from the NISVS, it is a self-reported victim survey.

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[–] Olgratin_Magmatoe@slrpnk.net 23 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I guess bisexuals do literally 0 crime.

[–] Im_old@lemmy.world 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

No they do the sum of all crimes! Dark lords! 😂

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[–] PalmTreeIsBestTree@lemmy.world 19 points 2 months ago (3 children)

A school friend of mine was shot in the back of the head by her lesbian lover a year after we graduated high school.

[–] Madagaskar_sky@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Jesus fucking Christ

Fatally?

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[–] Phen@lemmy.eco.br 18 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Is there any average differences in hormones between gay and straight people of the same gender?

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[–] peregrin5@piefed.social 17 points 2 months ago (2 children)

come on brothers. be gay do crime!

[–] InvalidName2@lemmy.zip 17 points 2 months ago (1 children)

This morning I drove to the post office going 38 mph when the speed limit is 35. Last week I checked my phone at the social security office when the guard was distracted. Next week, who knows what depravity I may commit.

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[–] irelephant@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 2 months ago

We can pump these numbers up

[–] Electric_Druid@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago

I support the message, but sure would like more info on the y axis: what exactly are 4 points of violent delinquency? How does that compare to 6, or 1?

[–] muusemuuse@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 months ago

These are rookie numbers. Come on gays, we can do better.

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