It wasn't as much that I found out I'm nb, I moreso found out that most people DO feel strongly about being a man or a woman. I never did, and kinda just assumed that was the case for most people. Even when I was like 8 years old, I'd be thrilled that some people read me as male and some read me as female. Just figured that was a common experience.
this post was submitted on 28 Sep 2025
34 points (97.2% liked)
Nonbinary
886 readers
37 users here now
An inclusive place for members of all stripes that don't fit into our culture's binary categories of gender.
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
Transitioning mtf but sometimes not feeling the "correct" gender in a way that wasn't dysphoria.
Pretty much when I had a schizo break and God told me to tell the truth, don't pretend to know something I don't, and don't pretend to be something I'm not. I took that advice to heart and became Socrates for a few years, examining everything in my life and sorting the nonsense out.
Pretty much same. I came to recognize that my use of masculine pronouns had been just another extension of autistic masking, of creating a socially expected appearance. Internally, gender has never mattered to me. I'm also panromantic demisexual. I don't have a preference for gender in romantic partners, I just don't experience myself or others like neurotypicals do.
When I was 30. I didn't see gender as quite so relevant at a younger age, but then masculinity became a really unappealing quality for me as I observed some toxic varieties in the people around me, and felt as if I was being infected by it.
at 30 i was a demigirl, but since i turned 32 (am 35 now) i consider myself genderqueer. i was struggling with the whole idea through my late 20s however.
not gonna fucking lie, im trans masc and I used to go by solely he/him, but at my job, men have to wear ties, so I started going by they/them and it turns out it's correct