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What's a subtle sign someone has been through some shit? (reddthat.com)
submitted 2 weeks ago by LadyButterfly@reddthat.com to c/ask@piefed.social
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[–] Tuuktuuk@piefed.ee 30 points 2 weeks ago

They care about others a lot, because they understand what a hard place a person might be in. They may be much more helpful than people typically.

[–] PhilipTheBucket@piefed.social 25 points 2 weeks ago

No emotional response. Something crazy starts happening and they're just dead calm, reacting sort of with a poker face. Usually that is a strong sign that it's not their first rodeo and sometimes in the past it has not turned out okay.

[–] QuantumTickle@lemmy.zip 22 points 2 weeks ago

They're alive in 2025

[–] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 15 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

They trust NOBODY. Can be hard to identify that in someone

[–] Lembot_0004@discuss.online 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

What's a subtle sign someone has been through some shit?

Smell :)

[–] threelonmusketeers@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 weeks ago

Okay, you win.

[–] Brainsploosh@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

Being willing to lose a fight.

[–] deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 5 points 1 week ago

They're more likely to attribute another's poor behavior to accident rather than malice.