I cut off all contact with my sperm-donor and now have two major cities between us. And no, absence does not make the heart grow fonder.
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Personally, I'm much stronger and more physically capable now, so I'd likely ignore them entirely. If they talk to me cordially, I'll be polite and minimal in my interaction. If they're dicks, I'll leave. If they get physical, I'll fuck them up.
My advice is to envision what you want the future to be, and do what you need to do to make that happen.
That can look like a lot of different things. Sometimes it's having a hard and direct conversation. Sometimes it means employing subtlty: jokes, passing comments, body language, etc (all the more important to understand and purposefully engage in these skills when communicating with someone who is not autistic). Sometimes it means putting on a mask of civility. Sometimes cutting someone off entirely.
Revenge in my experience is usually not satisfying.
Mine was my wife. I asked her to move out, took out a home equity line of credit for a down payment on a condo she chose in the bordering city that she resented that we didn't live in anymore because her family is there whereas I needed public transit and generally to not have to drive every single place, among other advantages to a major city. We've maintain a cordial relationship, but she still thinks I was asking too much of her to change just a bit to accommodate my needs she had been ignoring for 15+ years because I heavily masked and never pushed back because i thought I was just bad at being human.