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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/BulbazorTheLeafyFrog on 2025-11-18 06:24:48+00:00.
I am a new player (23M) to this group at our local gamestore, and I think 3 people are the OG of the group, including the GM(25F), and the other 2 recently joined as well.
Anyways, I introduced my character who is a Fighter who is looking for vengeance for the murder of his family, the game goes on for six or so sessions when a female NPC was introduced by the GM and we hit it off together, we made a sort of romance arc where my Fighter becomes distracted from his mission, then at the end, he remembers he had a mission to kill the BBEG who was responsible for the death of his husband and child.
When I revealed that part of the background, there was some sort of silence among everyone. The GM made an uncomfortable chuckle and moved on.
After that game night, she talked to me in my dms that I should have told her my character had a husband so she would've made a flirty Male NPC for my arc instead so I would feel more comfortable (she probably thought I was gay cuz my character had a husband).
I told her that a female NPC was fine cuz im straight irl anyway, and my character is bi.
Still, she told me it was disrespectful to make my character bi all of a sudden. Then the "burying the gays" trope. Then after confirming to her I'm straight, playing a bi character was apprently insensitive cuz I don't get their overall vibe or whats it like to be bi.
I was just speechless cuz Im pretty sure bisexuals also love women (can any bi people confirm this with me lol) and our arc/roleplay was beautifully written.
So I don't really understand where she is coming from.
As far as I know I didn't do anything offensive?. But I could be wrong, and maybe playing as a different sexuality was a mistake on my part?.
I'm definitely not in the group anymore, but we'll see next week.
TL;DR: Straight guy plays a bisexual D&D character. Was told I was insensitive for the sudden reveal of my character having a husband after the GM made a female NPC flirt with my PC. Now I am probably not invited in the group.