Depends what they use it for.
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That depends on a lot of details. AI usage would probably be a negative factor in any case.
Personally, never...AI usage can be dangerous, affirming the worst ideas without any pushback. It's known to cause psychotic episodes within neurotypical people, recommending antiquated medical treatments that cause serious health issues. It's fueled by copyrighted and stolen data (to which most creators will never be compensated for). There's too much ethical and environmental baggage associated with the usage of AI, most of these concerns are yet to be seriously dealt with...
I couldn't in good faith date someone that indulged in any form of AI usage, let alone be their friend or watch their online content.
A tool is only as good as its user. This is a staunchly prohibitive stance.
Given the amount of slop, broken code and other output I've seen as of late from AI users...Not many seem to have a firm grasp of its usage, or it shows a tool being retrofitted to perform a task it isn't capable of. Thus, my distrust of anyone who advocates the usage of AI in place of human ingenuity or creative folk who'd do it much better.
I agree, the public needs more guidance on how to responsibly and effectively use it.
You've missed the point, have a good day though!
I've stopped talking to people I've met on dating apps because they've admitted LLM use. To me, it indicates fundamental differences in our values and views. It's not even necessarily about the LLM use; it's about being too different as people.
Although it is also about the LLM use, not gonna lie.
I guess it depends on how they use it.
I use it at the workplace, at the insistence of my employer and because it streamlines some of my workflows.
I'm also interested in building a home inference server using open source models, to be in control of my own data. The use case is primarily automation of tasks that interest me.
Are those red flags?
If I were using it to create slop and do shady things, then yeah, maybe it's a red flag.
In this one case I heard, he was using it to generate ai covers of songs in different genres. In another case, they are using it to vibe code projects, none of their projects are fully working. In a different conversation, they are using LLMs as a secondary therapist. I don't believe, after a few years of trying different models, that they good (very general term). But environmentally and ethically the consumption of AI powered resources and programs is a serious problem. But with AI populating different sectors of our professional and personal lives it leaves a very sour taste in my mouth. I'm finding it harder and harder to have open dialogues where people even care about the negative implications.
I fail to understand the gate keeping around vibe coding.
If you're doing it as a hobby, where's the harm?
If you're doing it professionally and producing nonfunctional code that you are incapable of reviewing architecturally, then you won't have a job for long.
I would not date someone who used and advocated for the use of LLMs and other generative AIs. I don't think LLMs are going to disappear but they present serious ethical issues and if someone is advocating for more of them that implies either they haven't engaged with or understood those issues or don't care. Neither is a quality I find desirable.
Depends. Are they forced to use it at work or are they using it of their own volition for fun?
If you use generative AI for fun images/video, it tells me you have no respect and or understanding of art and that would be a fundamental ideological difference I couldn't just ignore.
If you use it for information, I couldn't respect your intelligence.