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Recent romantic partners always want to shower together and I couldn’t imagine anything more irritating. How do people get themselves properly clean while someone else is there fondling you? Sure, they can help scrub your back but maybe I need some space and privacy to clean all the BITS, you know?

So annoying. But it keeps the “passion alive” so fine, I’ll do it.

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[–] anon6789@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

It works out better as a "post workout routine" kinda thing for me. It's cramped and slippery compared to just about any other location available, and generally one person is getting warm shower water while the other is out in the cold. My ex had a hard time breathing with the steam and would get lightheaded as well.

I think it's more an early relationship things until both parties learn all the inconveniences. Or maybe I'm just getting older and saltier... 😁

[–] bxyrk@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

As a bald guy, my showers are pretty darn fast. Abrasive scrub with my fancy soap all over within 5 minutes on the usual, add 5 minutes about once or twice a week for shaving. When I shower with someone else they usually have a lot more involved with their shower and I'm out before they really get started.

I mean, I'm definitely not opposed to showering with a significant other, but I usually let them know that it's not going to be what they think it will be lol

[–] andrew@lemmy.stuart.fun 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

There's also intent to think about. Are we getting clean at the same time, or is it romantic? I'm out in 5 minutes also, if we're getting clean. But if you want romance make sure I know and I can slow down and enjoy the time too.

[–] bxyrk@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 2 years ago

Entirely about intent! I HAVE dated someone that just wanted some us time even if not physical, then I'd hop out and dry off but hang around while they did the rest of their shower

[–] Duchess@yiffit.net 1 points 2 years ago

Personally I don't regard showering with my partner as particularly sexually exciting but more as a way to enjoy intimacy and being close and vulnerable with one another.