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It's so weird how Lemmy feels like old reddit and that was when I was more active but as reddit grew I began to lurk more except in four different communities. It's still hard to not lurk here. I frequently will type a comment or make a post and delete it, haha. Anybody else experiencing this?

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[–] PaupersSerenade@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I constantly do the ‘type it out and delete’ move, both on Reddit and slightly getting there here. I’m just an anxious sort who’s thinking ‘surely no one wants to read this’ ¯\(ツ)

[–] RippleEffect@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

Or that they'll vehemently reject what you say instead of helpfully explaining their perspective and why you might be wrong. That's always fun.

[–] Conman_Signor@lemmy.one 3 points 2 years ago

Yeah but you just gotta do it. Post that comment or post. We gotta build this community for us. I have a tendency to not be as social able on social media vs IRL. Mainly because I'll second guess myself. But we gotta keep this place alive

[–] WheeGeetheCat@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I am moderating a whole damn community. I never reached this level on reddit. I still touch grass I swear. Also its a tiny community that no one really interacts with but me

[–] DDS@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

What’s your community? I’m trying to stop being such a lurker as I would like lemmy to succeed!

[–] WheeGeetheCat@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago

!contagiouslaughter@sh.itjust.works

I just toss a couple videos of people laughing there everyday. It's a bit niche but I love it because these videos usually give me a good belly laugh. If you like that type of content feel free to post

[–] Etterra@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

I mostly lurk unless I think of something to say that's interesting, additive, it funny. There's no point in replying to a post if you have nothing at all to say - that's just meaningless filler. That's extra true for OC posts.

[–] Assassin4@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Yes keep deleting before I post. Happens quite a lot actually

[–] josephos@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

Yeah, exactl.. closes tab

[–] Alkider@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

And on mobile, the bad gateway errors deleting what you jot down doesn't help either lol

[–] Bananakabooom@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Yeah, I have significant lurker tendencies. It will take me a while to break out of the habit I think

[–] CharlesReed@kbin.social 1 points 2 years ago

My lurking comes from mostly not being able to articulate exactly what I want to say sometimes. Like yeah, I know how this random thread makes me feel and I have an idea of what I want to say, but when I try to put it into actual, tangible words that make sense, I just end up sitting there for ten or fifteen minutes trying to word it out before I give up and move on lol. I'm trying to be better at it though, like force myself to post or comment something sometimes. Surely the more times I do, the better I'll be at it right?? ¯\(ツ)

[–] CFinley97@kbin.social 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I used to lurk on reddit but have been much more active here.

Basically if I'm on kbin, I try to comment or post if I have a reason

[–] mvirts@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

I've made an effort to just post the random crap that I think of because heck, we need activity

[–] falathren@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

yep, first comment after being on Lemmy for 3 weeks

[–] c0c0c0@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Given its much smaller user base, it's a lot more likely that a human will see your post before it scrolls off of page 1 on Lemmy. There's a little less futility to posting

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 1 points 2 years ago

I never understood lurking. How can you just sit back and observe without ever engaging? Do you have no thoughts? Are you embarrassed? Lazy? We will never know because once the lurkers answer, they are no longer lurking. 😌

[–] SamXavia@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Just found this community but haven't seen much as of the moment to comment to.

[–] cheerjoy@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

I'd never delete a post after submitting it, but I do find myself not finishing a comment when I feel it's not worth the effort. I have been trying to get more people to post in my community so I don't have to, though 😅

[–] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 years ago

OP you are inherently not a lurker because you have made this post

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