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Porn sites Pornhub, XVideos, and Stripchat face stricter requirements to verify the ages of their users after being officially designated as “Very Large Online Platforms” (VLOPs) under the European Union’s Digital Services Act (DSA).

I personally have mixed feelings, as the information collection could be used to link individuals and profile them. Possibly leading to discrimination if abused.

But I also feel that any random kid shouldn't be able to just go to these sites and see porn freely.
Ofc, there's always going to be those who mange to circumvent any protection put in place but it'd be much harder then just clicking a link or typing in the address.

I also feel that parents should actively monitor their kids online activities and step up a Blocklist to pro-actively prevent kids from reaching these sites to begin with.

What are your thoughts on this?

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[–] BrikoX@lemmy.zip 84 points 2 years ago (2 children)

But I also feel that any random kid shouldn’t be able to just go to these sites and see porn freely.

So they will just go to another site that doesn't have age verification and doesn't implement any security measures instead. Big sites are required to age check people before they are allowed to upload anything, that is not the case for most of the internet.

All age verification does is aggregate personal information and make it easy target for bad actors to steal. Instead of needing to go thought 100 sites, now that information & identities will be tied to a single database.

It's also a slippery slope, since the same adult content is available not just on dedicated adult sites, but mainstream social media. Lemmy, Mastodon, Twitter, TikTok, Twitch (just recently wanted to allow nudity). Do you really want to have your identity tied to your online activity?

[–] curiousaur@reddthat.com 41 points 2 years ago (9 children)

Governments should not be taking on parental duties.

[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 6 points 2 years ago

+1 here, friend. Spread the word.

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[–] DaDragon@kbin.social 4 points 2 years ago

Yep. I spent a couple years as a child in a country with country-wide blocks on some internet content. However, google images wasn’t blocked (duh.) Reddit wasn’t blocked (not that I knew the site at the time).

Only thing it changed from a user-perspective was using either shitty and seedy VPN’s or simply going to more questionable sites the authority blocklist didn’t know of yet. And I’ll be honest, I doubt that sites like xnxx (back then) are much better for a developing child than the somewhat controlled sites. There’s so many niche porn sites out there that they can’t all be blocked. You only end up blocking access to sites that are the flattest for access by minors, ironically. (To be clear, I’m not saying that it’s great that minors access that content, either)

[–] HMH@lemmy.ml 59 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

The good old "Think of the children" argument again... This is an attack on online privacy, again. I hate it.

It is the parents responsibility to keep their kids safe. We don't ban knives either just because a child could accidentally get hurt by one. And apart from that the regulations are not even well thought out, they will not stop a determined teenager with a lot of time on their hands.

[–] Facebones@reddthat.com 16 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Funny how the venn diagram of "it's the govts job to protect my kids at all costs" and "the govt shouldn't come near my children with a 10 foot pole because they're brainwashers" is a perfect circle.

[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 7 points 2 years ago

👍 Yep, it's sad. I can protect them along with the help of my family, friends and community. If not, I will admit failure and live with the consequences. But it's up to me to grow up and build skills and learn patience and responsibility, not the job of others.

Parents need to get back to parenting instead of absolving themselves of what they see as a pesky responsibility of raising the children they produce and putting their lives and impressionable minds in the hands of others, then wondering what went wrong 20-some years on and blaming everyone but themselves.

[–] eager_eagle@lemmy.world 47 points 2 years ago (1 children)

In the worst case a privacy nightmare, and in the best case useless.

[–] RGB3x3@lemmy.world 27 points 2 years ago (1 children)

"Please enter your age:"

Me, 15 years old: "Yes, I was born in 1973."

[–] eager_eagle@lemmy.world 13 points 2 years ago (1 children)

"use this rotary phone to enter your year of birth"

[–] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

That would probably actually be a decent age verification scheme

[–] Mango@lemmy.world 32 points 2 years ago

I don't want any company putting my identity into a database along with my sexual interests. Just consider what's been done to the gay++ community.

[–] Syo@kbin.social 31 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Absolute waste of tax money and resources, anyone advocating for this policy is an idiot and psychotic control freak that should never be allowed to opine on public policy.

Outdated values are driving this country back into the stone age. The body was designed to be horny as we go through teenage years. It's nature. Rather than guide kids on the safe path, fools would forbid, outlaw, prohibit until they can't control them after age of 18.

Here's how this plays out... Kids are going to masturbate, regardless. They will dive deeper into the Internet into places with no restrictions and be exposed to really messed up stuff. Hey at least the parent can pat themselves on the back, right, they were good partners that did everything right by the book, even paying the kid's therapist.

[–] Moghul@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Which country would that be? This is EU related.

I don't disagree with you otherwise. If we had a good age verification system that didn't involve the website, only gave a boolean age check to the website, wasn't logged at the government or any other level, I might think this was ok. But we don't. So as soon as this starts I'll pirate a bunch of porn.

[–] golden_zealot@lemmy.ml 27 points 2 years ago

It won't work. Ever. VPN's free and paid exist, File sharing exists, Torrents exist, AI pornography generators exist, freenet, tor, I2P all exist. There is no action a government could take that would have any true impact in this regard unless they made the use of the internet illegal, and even at that, it would create a black market in which such things could still be purchased as physical media.

All this does is allow government entities to infringe on privacy rights further by doing what they have always done - hiding behind children.

[–] ShortN0te@lemmy.ml 27 points 2 years ago (7 children)

Electronic ids can provide the age verification without giving out any personal information. This is a solved problem at least for a lot of ids in the EU.

But no i still find it a stupid idea. It is the parents job to parent them.

[–] harry_balzac@lemmy.world 16 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Exactly - it's the parents' responsibility.

Imagine any government telling car manufacturers that they have to verify that everyone who starts their vehicles has a valid drivers license.

[–] RandoCalrandian@kbin.social 6 points 2 years ago

Don’t give them ideas, this is exactly the type of shit they want to enact

[–] ares35@kbin.social 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

give it time. the government (us) wants to put interlock gadgets into every new car to prevent drunks from driving. driving under the influence is illegal and those that do are more likely to kill someone. so is driving without a license, and so are those drivers.

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[–] digdilem@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I suspect you haven't worked with governments before.

Just because something is technically possible, it's no guarantee that it will be the chosen mechanism for something. More likely the contract will be awarded to either the lowest possible bidder, or to a friend of a friend. Cronyism is depressingly common at all levels.

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[–] sir_reginald@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

isn't the id unique? which means that sites can trace every visit you make and what videos you watch every time?

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[–] Kir@feddit.it 24 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I think we should stop, as a society, to try (and fail) to handle problems by imposing limits and obligation and start doing it with some fuckin large-scale massive education planning.

In this context: a smart boy/girl, with sexual/emotional education and good critical thinking can have access to all the porn in the world from teenage and be fine 99% of the time

[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Prohibition leads to black and grey markets, where what is produced and consumed is frequently even more corrupted and dangerous/risky in its acquisition and delivery than whatever you think of the corollaries in the lit markets. It may also drive more deviant and destructive behavior where they may hide their actions and produce more shame and be labeled criminals.

My only divergence would be that the education planning starts at each individual family level rather than large-scale massive education buracracy, which is what we have now and is failing badly to produce good results.

Maybe once that first order family circle is built strongly, you can begin to expand the circle of influence to extended family, neighbors, friends and community.

[–] Kir@feddit.it 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I disagree. Family education is very important, but it's not something you can rely on. Just to point out some major problem:

  • you leave behind everyone that have a problematic family
  • even the most intelligent and benevolent parents will be just limited to their core value and experience, and education needs more
  • education is a very complex process that needs professionals, especially considering a rapidly evolving context like today. You can't ask a parent to be ALSO a professional educator. You need skills, training, experience.
[–] VolunTerry@monero.town 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I am fine with you disagreeing and forging your own path. I mean that sincerely. I would like to follow mine. We can each see how it works out.

Just please don't force me to support your approach, financially or otherwise, by using the state/gov or others as a proxy for your personal wishes, and I will agree to the same, as I already do.

Edit: Also, do not use those same levers of power to form a cartel that excludes my family, or those who choose to do it this way from participating in public life. We can all get along with tolerance and respect, despite our differences.

Upvote for the civil discourse and laying out your reasoning.

[–] Kir@feddit.it 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

We are just discussing here. Why are you assuming I'm trying to force something into you or your family? How would I do it?

I'm sorry, I think I'm missing the point of your answer. It's a social and we're just discussing opinions, nobody can decide anything about anything.

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[–] Valmond@lemmy.mindoki.com 5 points 2 years ago

And if they aren't smart enough, they'll get a shit ton super sexualised stuff from the day they see a screen anyways.

It's just a power game, or the old "vote for me, those things are evil". I say that as no one seems to blend in sex ed. Like at all.

[–] turkalino@lemmy.yachts 17 points 2 years ago (5 children)

Might be a stupid question but is there any peer reviewed research that shows that porn is harmful to minors? Early humans didn't have clothes so minors were seeing nudity for centuries. Of course, there's the issue that porn gives men unrealistic expectations about women & sex, but that's an issue regardless of age.

[–] Kir@feddit.it 15 points 2 years ago

Your question is not stupid, but comparing porn to casual nudity is.

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[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 16 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Let's be real, teens, especially males, will actively search for porn. Blocklists can be pointless, because even if you can blacklist 160k pornhub clones, they can just join a discord or telegram server instead.

Frankly, I think parents should just make them aware that just like cinema, those videos are for show, not for "trying at home". Parents should tell them that if they ever expect sex to be like in the porn they consume, they'll be sorely disappointed. Most of it is faker than reality tv. Oh, it can also make boys get really fucking insecure, especially about their own size.

[–] Microw@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

That's not a problem in my opinion. Obviously teens are a big demographic for big sites like pornhub. And they will consume porn in one way or another. I would love it if they used more ethical porn platforms, but whatever it is it is.

The issue with these sites has always been that they will blast videos into your face as soon as you open the website, without the usual barrier to register first. And that makes it a problem for any child between 5 and 11 years old who might stumble onto that page because someone is pulling a prank or whatever. The un-natural, violent kind of porn promoted by sites like Pornhub should not be broadcasted into the minds of actually small children.

[–] pipariturbiini@sopuli.xyz 15 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Kids are smart. Horny teenagers even more so. They will find loopholes or ways to circumvent these kind of things - speaking from experience. At age 13 I installed a keylogger on my PC to get the password for a parental control software my parents installed. Roughly one year later I also exploited a vulnerability in iOS 4 that allowed me to see the parental controls password in plaintext so I could re-enable Safari.

[–] Anonymouse@lemmy.world 12 points 2 years ago

Is it the responibility of any government to enforce a parental policy? What if I, as a parent, support my kid to view this stuff?

At home, I was allowed to have alcohol with supper at family meals from about 13.

I feel like the regulations should be to give parents control over their child's activities if they so choose. While we're at it, make it illegal to collect information about a person, parent or child, without their express concent. I don't know how, but there are many smart people in the world that can probably figure it out.

[–] rbesfe@lemmy.ca 11 points 2 years ago (1 children)

My first exposure to porn was through sprays in TF2. Kids are gonna see this shit regardless of how much you invade everyone else's privacy

[–] brygphilomena@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

I'm getting flashbacks to Counter Strike. It's been a long time since I've thought of sprays in games.

[–] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 10 points 2 years ago

I think there are a host of problems including equity, efficacy, privacy, etc.

We don’t need morality police, we need education and better health care. If parents have an issue, they need to parent better.

[–] Gutless2615@ttrpg.network 8 points 2 years ago

Any so called privacy law that enriches and ensures that age verification data brokers make bank is fundamentally and irrevocably broken.

[–] admiralteal@kbin.social 6 points 2 years ago

It is an absolute privacy nightmare. Nothing should be asking for your identity that doesn't have a DAMN good reason to be asking for your identity.

Age verification is not a damn good reason. Especially since any number of free VPNs can circumventing it with just a few clicks.

[–] kbal@fedia.io 4 points 2 years ago

Snake oil salesmen never had it so good. Without the layers of abstraction provided by computers, nobody would've believed their magic elixirs would protect children from getting interested in sex until their parents approved of it.

[–] devfuuu@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

Just open another site.

[–] Squid@leminal.space 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Another reason to pirate

Also if the government do feel the need to "help" parents and the larger social fabric then why not put money into civil dutys classes in schools. Teach kid how to grow into normal adults, the trickle down would be much greater than these half baked ducktape tactics

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