As I said, on a number of times, it's not written in stone. Hell, I know a lot of goth chicks that are good parents as well... but, there's the other 70% that are... well... they're not good partners or parrents.
Mind you, I don't live in the US so my experience may greatly differ from what tou guys have over there... as well as the standard of what a good partner and parent is.
You don't like it, don't read it ๐คท.