FlowerTree

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[–] FlowerTree@pawb.social 2 points 2 years ago

Basically phone speakers at home, earbuds while away. As basic as you can get.

[–] FlowerTree@pawb.social 4 points 2 years ago

Ori and the blind forest, a hat in time, deltarune. It's amazing how good videogame soundtrack can get!

[–] FlowerTree@pawb.social 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

It's not so much already on my mind.

I didn't spend too much effort when choosing the name while Playing Stardew; it was the first name that clicked, and never in a million year I'd think to use that name for myself.

But I oversimplified it. Truth is, I also had quite a few other names on my mind when choosing my name specifically, Jasmine's one of them. It took me a week before I settled on Jasmine and even more weeks before I was fully confident it's the right name.

[–] FlowerTree@pawb.social 8 points 2 years ago (4 children)

The story of how I got my name was both interesting and mundane.

I played a videogame named Stardew Valley and created a female character there. I don't really think about it much when choosing her name, I just wanted a plant-related feminine name so I chose Jasmine.

Many weeks later, my egg cracked and I randomly chose Jasmine as my new name. Later that day, I realized that the name was the same as my Stardew character.

[–] FlowerTree@pawb.social 2 points 2 years ago

Yes, it is perfectly okay to transition in any way that you want. It does not make you selfish. You don't "owe it to your culture" to continue repressing by pretending to be something that you're not. There is nothing wrong with being trans, and there is nothing wrong with you being yourself.

You're right. Maybe there's a reason "going against your culture and parents to do the right thing" is a common trope, and we consider the charactes who did it hero instead of villain.

Still, it'd be hard to reprogram decades of anti-trans stance brought on from my culture, even more so when it's still proliferating and as things gets worse for us.

As for tackling your internalized transphobia, I would encourage you to stop intentionally seeking out transphobic content online - as you have already identified it is a form of digital self-harm.

It's easy for me to avoid them most of the time, but it's very hard when my mood is low. Worse, most of my transphobia nowadays comes from my head, not contents from the internet. I can't exactly turn off my brain to avoid thinking of transphobic thoughts...

block yourself from going there if the impulse is too strong.

A good number of transphobia I had is from anti-trans laws news, which I find easily from most trans communities. When I hear transphobic laws passed, I tried my best to justify them even though I didn't agree with them. It's like I'm putting effort to become transphobic, even though deep down I don't want to.

I would recommend talking with an LGBT+ friendly therapist if you are in a position to see one.

I think I might if things get worse, but there's practically no LGBT friendly therapists around, nor do I have the money to see one.

Maybe I can contact a trans friendly hotline if they operate worldwide. Maybe like the trevor project or something like that.

[–] FlowerTree@pawb.social 4 points 2 years ago

I always shied away from anything trans because I thought so many cultures are opposed to us. But you're right, in a vacuum, I would me more than happy to be a girl, at least a part of me (we're a bit plural). I think I should not stop dreaming to be a girl one day.

I feel that it's wrong to go against everyone, so selfish. Then again, there's a reason that defying what your culture say is a common trope in movies. Think of Moana, Cinderella, Romeo and Juliet, or even Aladdin.

[–] FlowerTree@pawb.social 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

If your culture is transphobic, you are allowed to just ignore or reject the bigoted parts (or any other parts you have no interest in) and be the woman you want to be (and are).

I know, but... idk... it still feels wrong. I've been taught for a very long time that trans people have no place in my culture, and that it is my duty to uphold my masculinity. I know I'm wrong, but it's really hard to deprogram yourself after years of being taught.

I guess more exposure to trans culture will help, but it's hard when even interacting with the trans community feels wrong. Maybe you know a way to make it easier?


But, I'll be honest, my biggest problem right now is just how much I've tried to seek out transphobic content lately, it's almost like a form of self harm. It's even worse when I internalized and accepted the transphobic things I've found.

Of course, it's harmful, and I've tried my best to stop myself from looking at transphobic content. But, in a way, I keep coming back for no reason.

I just wanted a way to stop myself from thinking and accepting transphobic stuff within. Maybe you know a way to help me stop looking at transphobic content as a form of self harm?

[–] FlowerTree@pawb.social 11 points 2 years ago

The canadians: profused sweating

[–] FlowerTree@pawb.social 1 points 2 years ago

This only applies if you use lemmy from the website. If you use mobile apps such as Jerboa, Liftoff, or Mlem, the way to unblock would be different.

Generally, it's in the settings, at least it is on Liftoff. I couldn't find it on Jerboa (maybe it isn't available yet?). I guess you can try from the website.

[–] FlowerTree@pawb.social 91 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Unless it's 2020, then saying "It doesn't smell like anything here" is concerning...

[–] FlowerTree@pawb.social 2 points 2 years ago

Perchance. I can see this post from lemmy for now. But remember, any lemmy back-end updates could potentially break lemmy-kbin interoperability.

 

I've seen many people do this. I've seen fursonas with top surgery scars or bottoms reflecting the ones the authors have. Of course, it's nice to have our own fursonas represents who we are and to make them relatable to us.

But on the flip side, I've heard some transfurs preferring to have a cis fursona based on their preferred gender instead. They felt that their fursonas represents their perfect self, which for them would be if they were cis.

There's nothing wrong with that or making your fursona trans. Your fursona is yours to decide and it doesn't have to be tied to expectations about yourself; that's the best part about having a fursona!

But, how do you feel about it? If you are trans, do you also make your own fursona transgender?

Personally, my fursona is transgender much like I am. I usually like to put a little trans pin and write her as "trans" in her ref sheet, assuming that I'd ever take the time to draw her. While being trans isn't the biggest aspect of my fursona or an imporant detail for most of her art, it is an important part of her identity.

 

Hello everyone! This is the first time I've ever uploaded my art online. I know it's not the best, but I tried. I never really draw anything before and it took me quite a while to finish this.

I've been struggling with a lack of motivation lately. I always feel too demotivated to ever finish anything. And before I share my creation online, I always feel anxious and scared that I'll mess up or annoy someone. But I wanted to push through all that and share this to all of you!

This image represents how I feel sometimes. Staying in bed, mildly bored and apathetic. I don't have a name for the character or anything, this is more of a test art.

 

For context

Civet Cat Coffee, otherwise known as Luwak Coffee, is made out of the poop of a civet cat that was fed with coffee. Without their poop, the coffee wouldn't exist, hence the meme.

ALT TEXT: Everytime I pooped (followed by an image of a civet cat), you get coffee. Imagine the entire luwak coffee industry collapsing because these MFs don't poop for three days.

 

cross-posted from: https://pawb.social/post/196381

ALT: A text that said "How I wish HRT actually works." Below that is an image of an anime character in his human form with the caption "Before HRT." Next to that is a tanuki-like anime girl, Michiru Kagemori, with the caption "After HRT."

 

cross-posted from: https://pawb.social/post/196381

ALT: A text that said "How I wish HRT actually works." Below that is an image of an anime character in his human form with the caption "Before HRT." Next to that is a tanuki-like anime girl, Michiru Kagemori, with the caption "After HRT."

 

ALT: A text that said "How I wish HRT actually works." Below that is an image of an anime character in his human form with the caption "Before HRT." Next to that is a tanuki-like anime girl, Michiru Kagemori, with the caption "After HRT."

 

This is a follow-up of my previous post.

I've also had a few more question about tail furgonomics. Where would the tail go when sleeping or sitting?

I suppose chairs could be built with holes in them for tails to go through, but that would bring a problem especially for animals with larger and thicker tail. When sitting on a bus, for example, animals with larger tail might have their tail be in the way of someone behind them. Or if a chair were located close to a wall, there might not be enough space for larger tails to go through.

And when sleeping, would animals with thicker tail struggle to lay in their bed? Since their tail would get in their way, would they be forced to lay on their side? Would sleeping in a position where your tail is crushed under your body painful?

And what other problems would having a tail bring? It seemed like having a tail as an anthro animal could be a hassle.

But let's be honest, we view everything about anthro worldbuilding within the lens of a human, because obviously. But an actual anthro society would probably have figured out how to deal and manage with their tail problems the same way we did with our human problems. Their society might not even look like ours, so many problems they would've faced in our human society, whether caused by their tail or not, wouldn't apply. They would probably design their society around the fact that they have tails.

Though a bit of a struggle, we can find products for humans of all shapes and sizes. Shirts, pants, clothings are available of all sizes, even if some sizes are harder to find; left handed scissors exist; and more. So it would be possible for anthros to deal with the hassle of tails. But, it would still be a struggle, just like how much it is a struggle for us to buy shirts with unusual sizing.

But the last two paragraph might not always apply. I am interested in writing a story about a child who suddenly turned into an anthro while others still remain human, so they didn't have the luxury of anthro-animal-centric societies catering them. Since they were the only anthro, they would have trouble fitting in many ways due to their different, furry body. They had to figure out how to deal with their tail, fur, etc in a society not built for anthro.

With that I wondered, what other struggles would they have? What could potentially be a source of struggle or conflict for an anthro in a society of humans-- aside from discrimination, which would be the main focus of my story. And for more fun, what other adaptations or differences would a society of anthros have over human ones?

 

I'm interested in writing anthro stories, however, one problem I often worry is how I can imply that my character is anthro.

I can state the species of the character I'm writing, but I'm afraid that the reader will think the character is an actual animal instead of an anthrophomorphic one.

If I mention that the character is a dog, for example, the reader may think that they're an actual dog instead of an anthro one. While I can explicitly mention that the character is an anthro, whether at the beginning of the story or inside it, that does feel a little clunky. Writing "as the anthro dog walked around" feels forced.

I guess I can use descriptions to imply the character walks upright or is anthrophomorphic in some way, but that might cause exposition dump, and if I spread the description over the course of the story, it may cause the reader to lose context for too long. After all, it'd be bad if the reader doesn't realize the character is anthro until halfway through the story.

So, how should I approach this?

 

I find it annoying when I can feel my tail hanging on my back, but I know that it doesn't exist. I can sometime feel pain with my tail, especially when I am in positions where my tail would've been crushed if it existed.

It would've been cool if the phantom sensation of my tail could've been more than a phantom sensation...

 

In a world full of anthrophomorphic animals, furries if you will, most species would have an additional appendages to humans: a tail. These tails can probably be used for ergonomics.

I was inspired to make this post when I remembered a picture of an otter with a tail bag- a bag attached to his tail- from reddit long ago.

I was thinking that many anthros would probably do the same thing or find other uses with their tail. Maybe they can use their tail to control stuff or operate vehicles, to show their emotions, or even as a third hand. But if their world was built around these uses for tails, how would they accomodate for different shapes of tails and species that lack one? Some tails are more flexible, others larger, others thin and small, and others are so small they barely exist (like the tail of a bear).

Their tails would also be used for aesthetic purposes. They would probably decorate them with items similar to how humans decorate their hair with hairpins and the like. Some may even wear covering for their tail. But with every species having different tail shapes, this would mean some tail garment may have to be tailored to specific species, especially tail covering.

So, would it cause jealousy when one species wanted to wear a tail covering that's only available to another species? Maybe Otis the Otter wanted to wear that beautiful tail covering, but it's only made for cats and his tail is too thick to fit. Also, some animals lack tail, so they won't be able to decorate their nonexistent tail at all. Some bears are probably jealous that their tail is too short to decorate with anything.

And finally, tail modification. Would some anthros snip their tail similar to how we do with cats? Would their people consider it body mutilation or just regular body modification like having a tattoo? Would it be treated as tradition, where in some cultures, some species (or even some gender of the species) have to cut their tail? How about tails that are too thick to snip without causing damage, like the tail of an otter?

There's a lot of possibilities on what having a tail can entail, so there is a lot of questions. Do you have anything more to add?

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