NaibofTabr

"Decreases" is not good enough for any job where you have to be around and interact with other people (e.g. retail, food service, healthcare, education, any kind of office work, etc...).

There is rarely a good reason to use cloudflare [...] By using cloudflare, you surrender your digital sovereignty for a mirage of convenience and safety.

Heh, man you have no idea how bad the DDoS attacks are without some form of protection. It doesn't necessarily have to be Cloudflare, but if you're putting up a public-facing website that you want people to be able to access, you absolutely need some DDoS protection service. You need someone to detect large-scale malicious traffic and offload it before it hits your system. It's no mirage. Arch has been under attack for days. DDoS-for-hire is a profitable criminal enterprise. It is really really bad out there on the open Internet.

Self-hosting a bot-interference tool like Anubis does nothing to help with DDoS attacks. You need a high-bandwidth shield that can absorb the incoming connection requests, filter out the legitimate users and dump the rest before it touches your server (preferably before it touches your edge devices), and that means a CDN.

OK, yes drink lots of water, but... that does nothing for not wanting to arrive at work (or anywhere else) sweaty.

I got both of these things in the mail this week:

There is absolutely anti-Newsom astroturfing going on right now. Right-wing donors are throwing money at this messaging.

Anybody whining too hard about Newsom's policies right now is actively supporting Trump's agenda.

Yup, they buy up portions of production runs and relabel it. This is why some products are not available sometimes - because they couldn't negotiate the contract to be able to sell it at the Costco price.

Well, yes certainly there is evidence that domestic abuse behavior is often repeated by children who grow up in that environment, but that's kind of an extreme example of what I'm trying to describe.

There's an attraction to the "bad boy" figures. It's deeply interwoven with the cultural experience of romance, and it's more subtle than obvious examples of physical violence. If you are a woman who has felt attraction to Steve McQueen, or John Bender (Judd Nelson) in The Breakfast Club, or Han Solo, or if you were on a "team" for the Twilight series (or you liked 50 Shades of Grey), etc... you experienced this.

Aggressive behavior is frequently associated with perceptions of strength and dominance (not in the D/s kink sense, but in the being in control or leadership sense) which are generally attractive.

So to bring it back to the original, I don't think it's valid to simplify this issue down to just "bad men" being deceptive. Certainly that does happen, but reality is far more complex than that and framing it this way paints the women as only helpless, foolish victims, which robs them of their own agency.

The truth is that women do in fact pick "bad men", not in ignorance or because they were deceived, but knowing full well what they're getting into (when your parents don't approve of your boyfriend and that just makes you want to keep him more)... this is bound up in thousands of years of human culture. There is absolutely need for change, but... It's just not as simple as the idea presented in the original post. People are far more complex than that, in their emotions, in their desires, in their relationships.

do you think any woman would pick a bad man if she could tell he was a bad man on sight?

Er, yes actually, I think there's an outright fetishization of this. It's one of the things that drives the enduring multi-generation popularity of the Joker & Harley Quinn characters.

Beyond the simplistic "I can fix him!" trope (which is a reflection of behavior that real people exhibit) there's a kind of strange attraction that some individuals have to a person who does not generally display affection - they want to win affection from that person because it feels exclusive, it feels special, and that makes them special.

It's part of why you see some people go back to the same bad relationships, the same abusive partners repeatedly (there's also the sunk-cost fallacy).

You might say, "oh, but that's just a few unhealthy people", but I don't think that's true. These behaviors exist as tropes in our media because they are relatable to many audiences - which means that the behavior is fairly common, everyone knows somebody who acts that way.

I think another part people are missing is that going to the gym is a social event. You see people there regularly, talk to friends, and do an activity together. It's extremely healthy to have a group of people that you spend time with outside of the home and work.

Or, y'know, it's hot outside.

I'm one of those who don't vote for any political party

If you do not vote, you are participating in the agenda of the authoritarians who want to take the right to vote away from everyone (e.g. Donald Trump saying "you won't have to vote anymore"). "Voting doesn't matter" is their propaganda. If you repeat his message, you have been fooled by the propaganda and are now helping to spread it.

DO NOT BUY THIS CRAP.

If you encourage others not to vote, you are complicit with the authoritarians.

I'm not going to tell you who to vote for, but fucking VOTE. People fought wars over that, demanded changes in law for that, marched on Washington for that, got assassinated for speaking about that. Anyone who tells you it doesn't matter is a fool, ignorant of the lessons of history.

That's ok we'll just refactor it with AI.

what could possibly go wrong