It can be awkward at times, but I'd imagine it's no different than describing any other kind of personal project to a designer, even outside of art.
People get custom niche things because they want custom niche things tailored to their interests - ask engineers and architects - they probably have had similar experiences with clients.
(Source: am engineering student)
Frustrating, yet unsurprising from those making these calls federally. Hopefully we can still have state-led memorials/monuments of our own.