bumblebeehellbringer

It sounded racist because it was racist. Your joke was a racist stereotype. You should think things through more before you post a joke about a racial group, ethnic group, or other minority.

I've said nothing about giving up jobs, you brought that up and the racist stereotypes on your own. My point is that we should be blaming europe's shitty genocidal policies, not the victims of those policies. Also they haven't been destroyed, obviously Romani people are still all around the world today.

Why don't you tell europeans to stop genociding the Romani, give them back their land and traveling rights, stop stealing their homes and camps when they move around, stop discriminating against them, stop over policing them... what the fuck why am I even talking to you

It's still a slur and you should stop saying it. What the fuck

What the fuck why would you say that

Sure, [slur] support each other, but they're also generationally perpetuating their way of living

Wow what do you think culture is? You do know that eradicating culture is a form of genocide? Roma people keeping their culture is a good thing, not a bad thing. Being sedentary is not superior to being nomadic, and there's a huge bias against the Roma and other traditionally nomadic peoples from people with sedentary-supremacist mindsets.

To Othello: You are super cool and I really appreciate reading what you have to say. I really appreciate your perspective and all you give to this community. I hope the rest of us can make this a good enough place for you to stay. You deserve a good place where your comrades have your back. [/gen, angry on your behalf, hoping you stay]

To the white fragile people who were being assholes to Othello,: Raise your fucking standards for yourself. Read. Learn. Don't take out your fragility and big feelings about race on black people. Do you feel upset when a black person expresses feelings about race? Do some reading about the history of racism. Do some emotional work. Don't turn your ignorance and your feelings into a burden for black people. Don't take out your insecurities, your anger, your fragility, your fear on black people. Deal with it yourself. If you don't have the tools, find them. Research. Learn. And if you don't have the energy for that, then shut the fuck up.

To my fellow white people on this site: We have to do better about defending our black, indigenous, and people of color comrades on this site. Yes, it takes work to learn, it takes time and energy and discomfort and going outside of our comfort zones. But we have to do that work, and we have to do a better job. We have to collectively create a site where our black, indigenous, and people of color comrades feel safe, where they know we'll be there for them and have their backs. It's fun to shitpost, and shitposting is an important part of the culture here too. But we also have to do ongoing work to make it so that when we see racism, we notice it, and call it out. It might take the mods a while to get to delete and ban racism, but we should be there to back our comrades up and make racists feel unwelcome. An important part of leftism is making sure that we have spaces that feel good for our comrades to be in. We need to be able to create and maintain spaces that are supportive. With the federations having happened, there's been somewhat of a focus on bringing leftism to other communities, educating outsiders etc, but we also have to remember that gaining numbers by bringing in outsiders is not the only factor affecting numbers. If we bring in assholes, and then they drive out people from minority groups, then we haven't actually gained anything good. We need to create spaces where our black, indigenous, and people of color comrades can stay. And from my digging to try to figure out what this was all about, it sounds like some (or all? not sure) of the users harassing Othello were from inside hexbear. So we need to do better. We need to go out of our way to do the emotional work, educate ourselves, and actively look for racism on the site so we can stamp it out.

Hey could you spoiler your title for sexual violence? Edit: thanks

Are you saying Sami people are responsible for the sins of colonizers because their skin is pale? The Sami aren't colonizers. They're indigenous people. Educate yourself about the Sami people before you talk about them. You're being racist, and you should stop.

I say this as a poly person. If you're poly, don't date monogamous people. Dating people you know you are incompatible with is a recipe for disaster. Don't date people you know you will end up just hurting when your incompatible relationship needs come to a head. As a poly person, it's on you to do the reading and emotional work around the ethics of being a poly person. A monogamous person isn't going to know what they are getting into. They're not going to even know what to look up, what to research, what ethics to apply. In poly, there are ethics that go beyond those required for an ethical monogamous relationship, and it's on poly people to do the research and emotional work, and conduct themselves in ways that aren't going to unnecessarily hurt people. Monogamous people aren't going to know that stuff by default and it's unreasonable to expect a monogamous person to immediately be able to grasp the ins and outs of poly relationships and ethics, or the even more complicated ethics of cross poly/monogamous relationships. Remember, there is more to ethics in poly than consent. Just because an adult agrees to be with you doesn't mean it's ethical for you be with them. You know better. Do better. Raise your standards for yourself. Do the work. It takes effort to behave with emotional maturity and ethics, but until you do you'll make life a living hell those closest to you. Life is short and full of pain, but we can do our best to not hurt each other unnecessarily and it's worth investing in. I might come across as harsh, but I mean all this with love. I want the best for you and everyone you date. And you have fucked up, and you do need to raise your standards for yourself. Learn from this, and come out of it a better person, a better partner, a better comrade.