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I am not sure, she deleted the post and then her account so I couldn’t find out.

No, don’t see your point. If someone obviously look like a woman why would I call them a man? You think I insist on calling someone who is basically unrecognisable from a woman a man? But if I knew that woman before, been in extremely abusive tortuous relationship with her for years, and now she decided to become a man, I am not going to be bullied into calling her “him” because it hurts bunch of strangers feelings. What I call someone is nobody’s fucking business. “Misgendering” is merely the opposite of paying someone the respect of validating their mental state and psychological reality. They have no basis of asking me for that other that “it makes them feel better about themselves”. Do I want my abuser to feel better about themselves? Hell no. Other trans people have nothing to do with it.

If someone kicks you in the leg on the street and you call them “bastard” and some random person pops out and start attacking you for calling this person a “bastard” because they don’t like to be called that way then what? Are you gonna tip toe about a complete strangers hurt feelings? Well if you would thats on you, you cant force others to do that.

How are other trans people going to face consequences? How? I don’t see the connection at all. The victim has a right to call that monster wherever she wants, trans or not. You can’t make other people call you what you want. Why are you making this about trans peoples feeling instead of how that poor victim felt when the sub ganged up on her and told her she was “transphobic” for misgendering her abuser?

Language is a human right. You can’t police other people’s language. Maybe in your country you managed to do that, but where I am from you cannot demand people to call you something they don’t believe you are if you don’t even bother yourself with respecting them. I might not like to be called by my full name, but people call me that all the time. Should I file a report for hate speech? I am over this convo because you people are so self-absorbed completely incapable of understanding that your demands are oppression of other’s freedom and safety.

The victim should have a choice to choose wherever they decide to respect their identity or not. He left a strong male imprint in her and that cannot be erased or minimised. And it’s not about hurting the abuser, it’s about protecting the victims dignity and reality.

Favourite talking point on Reddit is “freedom doesn’t protect you from consequences of that freedom” . Well of you decide to torture someone for 10 years there will be consequences. I don't understand that the movement is so eager to protect abusers instead of casting them out. To now own them. They shouldn’t be accepted, same goes for pdf files. Are we going to respect them too after they raped a child because it “hurts other trans people”? Thats absolutely sick.