jaycifer

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[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago

Starting or quitting the marijuana?

[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 8 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

The Bowling for Soup cover is the worst cover of a song I have ever heard. Not because it’s bad, but because it takes the original song and does absolutely nothing with it. The first time someone put it on near me it took me a full 30 seconds of confusion to realize that the song sounded wrong because the singer was different.

A good cover involves an artist taking a work from another artist and making it their own, with a different tone, pace, etc. The Bowling for Soup version does none of that.

[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It’s almost funny that the most recent trailer ends with the line “the game about capitalism, made by capitalism.”

[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

This comment reflects such a weird mentality that I see sometimes, conflating being social with being extroverted. The two go hand in hand, but they are not the same. I love having time with myself reading or playing games, but I am consistently at my overall happiest when that time is punctuated with going out and socializing with friends or occasionally meeting new people. Never going out doesn't make a person introverted, it just means they are antisocial.

[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I've always wondered what she would say. How did you acquire a raw vanilla pod?

[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 10 points 6 days ago (3 children)

If you’re trying to dissuade me, you’re doing a bad job. Vanilla overwhelming sounds kind of incredible.

 

Yesterday was my birthday. A few years ago, when I was in a bad place mentally, I didn’t answer my dad’s phone call to wish me a happy birthday. He left a voicemail in which he sang the song to me and hoped I wasn’t just working at the pizza place and went out with friends.

That was about a year before the isolation of Covid times led him to start drinking vodka on the regular. He was never able to stop more than a few months at a time after that, even with rehab, therapy, and AA. It felt like a race between him figuring out how to quit and how long before his body couldn’t give him more chances to do so.

At the start of September, I moved him across the country to be closer to family while he recovered from another round of binge drinking and starving himself. I had quit hard liquor a couple months prior after getting too drunk too fast for comfort at my friend’s wedding. After this weekend I stopped drinking everything else.

At the end of September, he lost the race. He managed to call an ambulance when he realized this detox felt different, walked himself outside to meet them and only passed out when he was on the stretcher. A day later in a medically induced coma complications ended his brain’s faculties and he died. The only sign of what he had been thinking was the book he brought to the ambulance. The last marked page ended with a character scared after an encounter whispering to himself “still alive, still alive.”

I have not drank for 9 months now. I was headed that way before, but now I feel I can’t drink. To do so would disrespect what my dad went through. Yesterday was my birthday. I made plans with my friends for a full day, but before I left I listened to that voicemail for the first time since he left it for me, before I had reason to worry about him, when I was the one he worried about. I miss him so much. I hope he would be proud.

[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago

“Australopithecus” “What’s a little boy like you doing with big boy words like this?”

[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It’s so you click the post to read the second part written in the post itself. In this case that Andor makes other Star Wars shows unwatchable.

[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think I see what you’re trying to say, and I don’t necessarily disagree with everything, but based entirely on this one comment (which may not be indicative of how you generally communicate) I have to wonder if the communication issues you see stem at least partially from your own over-articulation of thoughts and use of “fluffy” language.

I think this bit highlights what I’m trying to say best:

are virtually never taught if not en passant and indirectly This statement feels like it’s saying the same proposition three times, but if I dig into it it is saying three things, but in a confusing manner. I think it would have been better served by replacing “if not” with something simpler like “or taught” to more easily connect the first idea with the other two in the reader’s mind. I probably would have replaced it all with “are taught incidentally at best,” which I think captures the meaning you are trying to convey in terms that are easier for anyone to understand.

I don’t say this to try to bring you down. I just find beauty in seeing a concept existing in one’s mind, unbounded by the world, given a vessel structured by the words of language not to constrain or limit that idea, but to focus it into something that can be shared and understood with others. The vast majority of the time I see that vessel be too loose without giving proper shape to the idea it wants to convey. Yours is one of the very few internet comments I see that does the opposite, where it feels forced into a shape that’s too rigid. That makes me want to say something, because the mind that does that is a mind I think could learn from stepping back a little, rather than being told to force itself forward.

This is as much me challenging myself to understand what bugged me about your comment as it is a comment on your comment, and for talking about giving shape to thoughts I don’t think I did a super job of it.

I do think that humans are one of the only creatures capable of overcoming the difficulty in communication between minds because we are one of the only creatures capable of complex language to do that stuff I said earlier. But it is a skill that is difficult and requires a lot of time and effort to learn or teach. I do think communication is highly valued, or at least a lot of frustration espoused about a lack of communication, but modern society does make it difficult to work up the effort and acquire the resources to develop that skill.

[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Great game, I remember really digging the Clayface fight. The little clay enemies went down easy, but there were enough that it felt… mushy(?) getting through them to get at Clayface himself.

[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

Okay, but imagine if, when the cellular phone explosion kills him, his ashes are scattered across the ocean. But then that water gets used to make lotion for babies, setting the wheels of promotion into motion. At least the sun would still shine in the summer time.

[–] jaycifer@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Yeah, I had a few modern philosophers as professors in college when I minored in it. Based on a glimpse at the wikipedia article you shared, I’m hesitant to call these modern rationalists philosophers. Sophists sounds more appropriate.

I just thought there was some additional context that you missed which would explain the confusion some people are having. I will easily admit that it is my fault for thinking of historic philosophers whose ideas are still discussed today before a fringe group from Silicon Valley that uses the same terminology.

 

In college a few years ago, I decided to spend that time building up a foundation of beliefs and philosophy while my brain finished developing that would serve me for the rest of my life. This focus on self-improvement led to less mental energy spent on other people.

I think this has given some the impression that I’m a little narcissistic, but I’ve been pretty good at avoiding overconfidence. I’ve long considered myself self-absorbed but not self-centered, focussing on myself but only so I can be a better person than I’ve been.

Last Friday I realized that at some point I moved from one to the other. I stopped listening and started waiting to get conversations over with, only wondering what I was going to need to do for them. I stopped growing because I ran out out of things I had thought of that I had a reason to learn.

I don’t like being like this. I am trying to shift from a “what do I need to do?” attitude to a “what do others need that I can help with?” Any advice?

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