murdoc

joined 9 months ago
[–] murdoc@autistics.life 3 points 1 month ago

@raltoid @ickplant
Alternatively, what one of my roommates and I do is often we will preface our rant with "I just need to vent." or finish it with "Thanks for letting me vent."

[–] murdoc@autistics.life 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

@ickplant @db0
I remember that decades ago this was considered a classic men vs. women thing, so I wonder why that is, what's going on there. Did "male culture" pick up this trait from their 1% minority somehow? Or is there something else to this? :blob_cat_thinking:

I remember an incident where my best friend's girlfriend got pissed off at him for doing this (in retrospect I believe he is classic ADHD), and kicked him out of his own room so she could talk to me alone because I was just listening to her. So, on the surface that's weird since I was the autistic one. OTOH, I've had plenty of people tall me what a great listener I am, when it's more do to with me being "quiet and shy" around people I'm not entirely comfortable with yet, and this too scared to offer solutions. So in that respect, yes, me doing so would be a sign of how comfortable I am with you.

[–] murdoc@autistics.life 1 points 5 months ago

@the_post_of_tom_joad @southsamurai
That's what I have done, starting as far back as my early teens. I began learning psychology, in particular about interpersonal communication and relationships, and learning more throughout my life. So I think that I am better than most NTs in terms of these things. It doesn't make up for things like incompatibilities though, or issues that many people have that more require counselling or therapy. But it has still helped in other cases.