Yes! So many similar thoughts here - plus the vampire metaphor of drinking people's blood ... and the long discussion about inviting the vampire into their space almost seems like a comment on civility politics maybe?
And yeah as you say, the loss of identity and thereby a loss of connection to the past and future, due to an extractive and homogenizing mode of integration.
To me (and again, my understanding of Fanon is SUPER limited so I could be getting this entirely wrong!) this seems like it draws on Fanon's critique of Hegel's master-slave dialectic, where true recognition of the oppressed in the master's/colonizer's system is impossible due to racial politics, and the only viable option is the overthrow of that system.
The other bit that stuck with me was the part about having been truly free during those evening hours - where there really did appear to be mutual recognition of each other's personhood, even the wooden nickels were ultimately accepted as a worthy substitute to the US Dollars that Stack would have initially preferred.
Ok so here's my pitch:
So far I really like PieFed, and I'm hoping to set up some kind of online forum as an adjunct to an in-person discussion group in my city.
For now, I expect it will probably be non-federated, and invite-only.
Those things are already features in PieFed as far as I can tell (well, maybe not invite codes exactly, but using approved signups would work roughly the same way in this case).
Looking to the future though, here's what I'd be super excited to see: the option to make some of the communites visible to non-logged-in visitors, and/or federatable with other instances, while still keeping most communities semi-private; that is, only visible to registered & logged-in local server accounts.
Bonus points if some of those semi-private communities could instead be even more private, i.e., posts only visible to approved members of that specific community. To be fair, maybe the chat functionality is good enough in those cases, I dunno :)
I'm guessing this is a big ask. However, this particular group may not need those functions near-term, so I'd be especially eager to spin up a PieFed server if I knew those kinds of things might be in the pipeline.
My other viable choice right now is Discourse, but like, it's kinda corporate, and it's really JavaScript-heavy, which to me is kind of an equity issue when it comes to data plans and user device speed etc.
Thanks!