zerozaku

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[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

Damn. I'm saving this in my notes.

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

Thanks for the write-up again.

Don't get me wrong but having to report to your accountability partner sounds very daunting to me. I have tried making to-do lists with time blocking in the past and was only half successful with them. I'll try to implement the accountability method in a way that puts with less pressure on myself. Thanks.

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 1 points 4 weeks ago

Thank you for your very uplifting comment <3

Honestly I am not sure whether I'm depressed or not. Two people here have assumed it without a doubt, so maybe I am depressed. Depression is board concept and I didn't think I come under the blanket definition of it and identify myself as depressed. I cannot really afford a therapist right now.

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 2 points 4 weeks ago

Thank you I will look up on it.

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 1 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Hi, first of all you all have been very nice to me putting up huge comments to help me out. Thank you so much. I'm kinda moved lol.

Coming to accountability partners, I think I am very shy person and I don't like sharing self improvement things with anyone irl not because they are bad (I have a sweet family) but I just don't like to share my goals and then get asked questions about it whether it is good or bad.

I have an online friend with whom I share a lot of things which I don't with people irl, and maybe I can convince them to be my accountability partner.

I have few questions about the goals though. Do they have to huge like the one you shared? Do I have to report back everyday to my partner? How do I go about it.

Once again thank you for looking out for an random internet stranger <3 I was gonna reply later to you all one by one, but you keeping the timeframe out for me to check on me had be typing all this on the spot. Thanks <3

 

I cannot do a damn thing. Be it easy, be it hard, be it rewarding, be it just pure pleasure. I cannot enjoy a thing thinking it is just waste of time. I cannot carry myself to do a hard task thinking about the high effort it requires. Even if I break it into small parts, I would only do the bare minimum for a day or two and stop it.

My entire life is being passed away coming back tired, hungry and yearning for sleep, from a job I dislike to the core.

I am not moving towards my goals. I cannot quit this job. Time is passing. I'm stuck. Weekends cometh, I use them all trying to catch up on sleep.

Every week I'm doing just the bare minimum to survive thinking I might do something on the weekend and I don't. How do I break out this cycle? There's a lot more I could unwind upon but this post is already long enough.

Argh

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Wow. This pic alone made me feel so much better. Such a pleasant vibe.

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

When everyone seems do the same thing and you are not doing it, you start to doubt yourself.

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Ohh I'm very bad at fashion myself.

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Haha lol. Getting laid is not my top priority pursing a relationship.

 

I don't get it. Everywhere I look there is this discussion about getting into a relationship, getting gfs/bfs and constantly chasing after it. And I'm not doing anything of it. I never paid attention to such stuff. During my teenage years, I thought it was normal attraction which people cave into and pursued such things. But now in my 20s, the same thing I observe, if not a little bit more than I used it. People getting sad because they are not finding someone. People being happy because they have one for themselves.

I'm not that career focused either. I just mind my own business. If it's studying or working, I just mind that. I do nothing like checking out girls in my school/workplace like my peers do. Maybe I'm just scared to pursue such things. I also think having a relationship is a huge headache too. Meeting them, making them happy, going out with them regularly. (I don't go out myself where will I take her to?). All of this while doing your daily stuff.

Am I wrong thinking to put career first before I get into relationships and stuff?

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I'm in the same boat too. Honestly I don't think this will get better. The grind never stops. I am thinking to consider moving to jobs which are at least interesting to me since I'm going to spend 70%(might be more if math done properly) of my rest of my life working, might as well it be interesting or fun to me. Idk if I can pull it off.

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

I don't think anyone has the time anymore to enjoy their graphic cards they already own.

[–] zerozaku@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Thanks for the detailed answer. This is a lot to take in for someone who never paid attention on how I wear my clothes lol. I'll try to break it down and start slowly.

 

I am not a guy who used to pay attention to clothing fashion because I felt it was expensive and hard to follow those ever changing trends. But I am seeing lot and lot people keeping up well with trend. I feel like I am falling behind and I need to stay up with the trend too.

So how do I stay up with the clothing trends with not spending too much time on it? How do you stay up to date with it?

 

Last year, out of nowhere I got this impulsion to deal with my addictions, gaming and watching sports. Quitting gaming was hard but I was able to do it. Quitting watching sports was way easier.

Now with two big time killers out of my way, everything in my life has become boring. Entire New Year day was boring. Now I'm literally dreading getting free time. I dread my time at work and now dreading it in my free time too. Makes me think I got myself into an awful situation. I don't use Instagram or tiktok, never did. In this time period where I have quit these both addictions, people have asked what the heck do I do in my free time and I don't have any answer besides "I watch YouTube haha".

I really need something fun to do that I enjoy. I mostly stay home and don't go outside home except for work, so please recommend something inside my comfort zone. I know, I should go outside to places for fun but that's for another time when I feel motivated to try something out of comfort zone. Thanks.

Edit: Thank you all for taking your time and writing me so many things. Some of the things are ones which I always wanted to do and some of the things which are very new to me. Will try bunch of them and see how it goes 👍

 

I prefer to have same things all the days of the year. This extra pressure to celebrate on occasions feels so forced. I like the extra time I have for myself on holidays and don't have it waste on things on obligatory celebrations.

Just let me be with me and my PC.

This is the vibe I'm feeling on this new year's eve. Does anybody else feel this way?

 

Every group chat seems to die the moment I send 1-2 texts there. Every single one. Old, new, offline friends, online friends, everywhere. What's going on? Are my jokes bad? Have you ever experienced this? If yes, what was the issue you found out?

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submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by zerozaku@lemmy.world to c/android@lemmy.world
 

Am I the only one who doesn't like the new changes? Everything looks big like in coloros which already looks same as miui. Samsung kinda lost their identity. Ofc using it hands-on would give the clear picture.

Also this community needs to be more active and this is my effort towards it.

 

It crazy how many websites out there around bible collect information and share it with third parties. I looked at a bunch and couldn't find anything that's completely private.

Worst case, I would OK with them collect information but not share any information with third parties.

 

I have been waking up early since past 3 days and getting ~6hrs sleep on average. All 3 days, my brain's power has last longer and feels like it got "overclocked". I am able to take in lots of information, have more energy to talk to people(almost makes me think I'm might not be introverted) etc. I feel like a different person all together.

What is happening? I have no issues sleeping, I just had to wake up early and sleep late due to stuff.

 

Years ago I read a reddit thread saying you shouldn't pursue friendships or relationships at your workplace. Then I again see all over the places over the internet that friendships don't happen a lot after you become working adult and that they're struggling make new friends. My question is If you don't purse friendships, how would those happen?

Want to know about the thoughts of people over here.

 

I deem this as my own theory, The ThanksTubbs Theory.

(Sorry if this was cringe)

 

Large enthusiastic texts as in large texts about topics, you have common with the other person and enthusiastic about.

I am a person who prefers texts over calls. Maybe that might be the reason, the people I have in my circles are more into calls than texts.

But this happened with my online friends as well whose only mode of communication is via texts.

I used to have a friend who would do so but with the topics only he was interested in lol but I used to kinda act like I'm listening to him by asking small questions . He did try to complement my listening skills once. We used to chat for hours together. Sadly life moved on and he branched away from my friend circle (which is kinda non-existent rn because life ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯).

Or am I just too boring or loud? Is this a bad habit? Sometimes I can't stop making walls of texts. (Oops here I go again)

Side note: Subscribe to c!doesanybodyelse@lemmy.world and help it grow. I wanted to make a post there but it was really dead. (It doesn't have to be a lemmy.world instance.)

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