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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by Chronicon@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net
 
 

From the perspective of someone who sometimes has some cash to redistribute on here, I just want to provide some feedback on the semi-recent rule changes in this comm. I don't think all of them are working and I think this comm needs just a little bit more attention to rectify the situation!

First, and I hope least controversial: the sidebar desperately needs to be updated to reflect the actual updated rules.

Second, similarly uncontroversial, the rules should generally actually be enforced. Not enforcing them consistently is worse than not having them in some cases. This ties into several other issues.

Third thing, clarity is needed on whether or not payment details are allowed in the form of not (immediately) personally identifiable usernames. The rule rn says PII/opsec leaks aren't allowed and that payment links aren't, but usernames seems more gray. I thought that usernames weren't allowed at all until I re-read the post, and judging by the variety of different approaches to providing payment details in recent posts, I'm not the only one unsure.

Fourth thing, I think that strongly encouraging people to update their posts when they receive aid is a good thing for helping spread the community's limited aid resources around more where they are needed most. That's good guidance and I wish everyone did it!

Fifth, and to me personally, one of the most important, I am less likely to send money, if I have to effectively dox myself to the poster to do it, and when I have to ask for payment details over DM, that's basically what I'm doing (its trivial to correspond who I am by timing and payment method, even if multiple people do send them money, doubly so over multiple different posts over time). It's one thing for them to know my name or my venmo or whatever, but when they can tie that name to a specific hexbear account I start to go from "keeping the risk in mind" to "I don't think that's a risk I'm willing to take". So while I can understand the urge to not have posters dox themselves, the reverse is also true.

Sixth, as a result of having to DM for payment details (both because of the doxing risk and just the extra steps for both parties), mutual aid posters are currently incentivized to violate or skirt around grey areas of the rules if they want to get more aid. Combined with the lax enforcement/unclear rule, this creates a really sucky situation where people in need are punished monetarily for trying to follow the rules.

Seventh, related to #2/maybe #1 and others, I am of the opinion the comm probably needs another mod or two, it's pretty active and can be a fraught topic when there are disputes, and currently there only seems to be one active mod?

A further revision of the rules to explicitly allow non-doxxing payment methods to be published, followed by an update to the sidebar, would be greatly appreciated tbh. Or something like that. I appreciate all the work done to keep this site safe and functional and such, but these little issues have been nagging at the back of my mind for months now and needed to get out.

Thoughts?

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submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by CARCOSA@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net
 
 

Hello users of Hexbear, I am making this post to notify all users of the following:

Going forward comments giving unsolicited advice will be removed, comments that are critical of any mutual aid post or user will be removed, posts containing opsec leaks will be removed, posts containing payment links will be removed.

Posts containing personally identifiable information (PII) will result in a temporary ban from the mutual aid community

Posts or comments that state specific amounts received will be removed, please consider editing the title of a mutual aid post to include the mutual aid request has been received.

We strongly advise you ask people to send you a direct message to obtain information regarding payment.

Consider not make comments about getting large anonymous donations or about what the money gets spent on.

If you want to make a meta comment, provide advice/resources or hold another user accountable, then please make a separate post in this community but do not ping them or specifically/explicitly link their hexbear account to another hexbear account.

Users cannot assume that any post has been vetted and must do their own investigation.

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Still stuck in the inhumanity of job searching with autism and no drivers license, and if not for the solidarity of comrades on Hexbear these past few months I'd have been absolutely screwed.

I'm looking for 30 to 40 dollars so I can run to the store and stock up for the week, but any amount would be extremely helpful and appreciated. My cashapp and venmo accounts are both under the handle cosecantphi

EDIT: Goal reached! Thanks so much to our dedicated comrade bumpers and generous comrade donors here on c/mutual_aid. I eagerly await the day my situation is stabilized so I can pay it forward. heart-sickle

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My mom has been severely disabled for honestly more of my life than she's been healthy at this point. It goes back to 2005. She's 61 right now, her brain is kinda addled from oxygen depriv and a lot of medical events, so idk what her finances look like but I can guess she needs more help than she's let on. Her phones are off, her gas is off, and a bundle of other shit is cutting off. I didn't know this till yesterday. she's in the hospital (which is fairly normal tbh). Her fixed income runs at a loss just paying bills and eating as little as possible, and her family are kind of worthless maga shitheads who think this is all somehow her fault. My dad's a deadbeat and they're divorced anyway, she's single, however support amounts to what him, my sister, and myself can divert to her, which is well short of what she needs, especially since right now i'm also dependent on outside help to be solvent.

I'm going down to texas to probably say my goodbyes to my grandfather, who is dying rapidly. My family is mostly dirt poor, and organizing my airfare has drained the people who can actually help her. However, I kind of need her in the loop because her place is 1/2 of my shelter down there for this stay. I can work around no gas for cooking, but I can't really do much with her if i can't communicate with her.

She can restore her phone service for $280. I have no idea about gas, but she asked for $500 total yesterday, which just isn't fucking possible for me. Neither number is something I can really deliver, but I figured i'd try here.

With that phone off, she can't even really get the help she needs. She has one dirt poor ride or die neighbor friend, and i believe she'll do what she can, but there's really no support network here if she's fully cut off from me and my sister. She relies on us to get her any extra support, be that with talking to family or negotiating rides and help from friends, it's all kinda on us, and we do it from hundreds, and thousands, of miles away so we are super limited.

Starting to think i need to set my shit aside and go back in the closet to live with and help her, but I can't do that just yet. I'm just trying to make sure i'm in communication for the month i'll be in the area if at all possible, but I can't make that happen without external help.

If you can help, anything i get sent right now will go to her bills

my venmo and paypal are @ktkatte. If you can help via other apps, i can furnish those details in private message.

not sure what i'm expecting but i gotta try i guess.

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I've spoken about my financial problems on here before. Basically I'm going through a disability benefit appeal and have no money. The food bank is difficult to access regularly and it takes a long time to get an appointment. A couple of people on here have helped me out before with food, toilet paper and some toiletries for which I am so grateful. But I'm out of food now and have no means of accessing more. I would prefer not to accept money as the DWP (the nazis who run the UK benefit system) are checking people's bank and paypal accounts and how will I explain money going in. So I would be extremely grateful if anyone could give me any type of food vouchers that can be used in the UK. Like a supermarket voucher for Sainsburys/Asda/M&S or Tesco. Or a justeat voucher. Anything I can spend on food.

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Goal is $2,000—either for a motel room for a couple weeks when it inevitably blizzards this winter, or for a used minivan or something.

CashApp/Venmo: allthetimesivedied

I am also looking for some help setting up a GoFundMe—because I don’t have an ID, and also:

  1. It will probably draw more interest if someone who isn’t me is managing it, because, well, you know…
  2. I suck at writing things like the description for a GFM page and would like someone else to do it.

Thanks.

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Hello again everyone, hate having to make these posts and I really wish there was something else i could do :( For a quick recap ~ my wife and I are homeless and disabled, and lost pretty much all of our family over the past year and have no friends around so zero support system. We currently have been able to manage staying in a sleezy motel, and thanks to you guys have been able to stay off the streets thus far.

I was advised that I should perhaps start fundraising for next months rent a bit earlier so it isn’t a last minute desperate nail biting affair as to whether we’ll be on the street or not - for reference, again, it costs $55/day, $250/week, or $650/month if paid in advance. Any help is greatly appreciated and I can’t say enough how much it means to us. We’re in a really hard spot just in general as we lost half our food stamps and due to the stoppage of the Affordable Connectivity Program we’ve had to start paying for phone service as well which is extremely vital, and we do not have a vehicle and stay in an area lacking good public transport so we have to basically rideshare to anywhere we’ve got to go unless it is extremely close as I’m completely unable to walk most days and only can manage a short distance when I can due to an injury. This is just to say again, absolutely anything is greatly appreciated.

Have more or less given up on the laptop battery for now, however still need to turn on my wife’s phone which is about ~$46!

For the bajillionth time because I can’t express this enough, thank you so much everyone. We should hopefully be out of this situation come November sometime. Fingers crossed 🥹❤️🚩

Cashapp- $goldenratio1123 PayPal ~ @ iwannadaisuki Can DM if having any trouble finding me on these platforms and for Venmo or Zelle.

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Please help if you can!

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Hello again everyone, hate having to make these posts and I really wish there was something else i could do :( For a quick recap ~ my wife and I are homeless and disabled, and lost pretty much all of our family over the past year and have no friends around so zero support system. We currently have been able to manage staying in a sleezy motel, and thanks to you guys have been able to stay off the streets thus far.

I was advised that I should perhaps start fundraising for next months rent a bit earlier so it isn’t a last minute desperate nail biting affair as to whether we’ll be on the street or not - for reference, again, it costs $55/day, $250/week, or $650/month if paid in advance. Any help is greatly appreciated and I can’t say enough how much it means to us. We’re in a really hard spot just in general as we lost half our food stamps and due to the stoppage of the Affordable Connectivity Program we’ve had to start paying for phone service as well which is extremely vital, and we do not have a vehicle and stay in an area lacking good public transport so we have to basically rideshare to anywhere we’ve got to go unless it is extremely close as I’m completely unable to walk most days and only can manage a short distance when I can due to an injury. This is just to say again, absolutely anything is greatly appreciated.

Have more or less given up on the laptop battery for now, but phone bills are due TODAY which is absolutely vital! For both it’s about ~$90

For the bajillionth time because I can’t express this enough, thank you so much everyone. We should hopefully be out of this situation come November sometime. Fingers crossed 🥹❤️🚩

Cashapp- $goldenratio1123 PayPal ~ @ iwannadaisuki Can DM if having any trouble finding me on these platforms and for Venmo or Zelle.

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A comrade recommended for me to do this. I'm deeply concerned, and I don't have anywhere to go nor do I have much access to non-perishables. Any contribution would be great. I'm shooting for a goal of about $120 to stock up on as much as I can.

Thanks to all for being so understanding 🥺👉👈

I have Cash App, Venmo, and PayPal. PM if you are willing to help.

🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

Amount: $140 / $120

We're good now, thank you so much 🥺👉👈

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Starving artist,hopeless romantic, dirty kid, homeless recovering addict, garbage.... whatever you want to call me just trying to take a lady friend out this evening and my hands still recovering from the "car/bike/crash" stuff, yeah the usual bs. So yeah whatever the case a begging vagabond by any other name, just wanted to show someone a nice evening and try to forget about life little dilemmas for an evening with an awesome person .so if anyone wants to fuel this ragtime romp it would be greatly appreciated thank you.......cashapp:$paresomelove

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submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by RiotDoll@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net
 
 

thanks

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I can tolerate winters out here, except for 1 or 2 weeks in December or January when it gets intolerably cold, like 10°F or lower, every year almost like clockwork for the last couple years. The last two I got to ride out indoors, in a motel room paid for by a friend. I don’t think I’ll be so lucky this year, and I am really fucking scared.

That’s option #1, and it will cost me somewhere between $900 and $1,200, assuming I’m booking a room for 2 weeks at the Motel 6 all the homeless people go to around here.

Option #2 is buying a van and winterizing it. I can get a decent one for $2,000 or less—I almost bought a really nice Jeep Grand Cherokee for $1,700 a couple months ago and I’m kicking myself still for not buying it. Living in a van or something has been my dream even before I became homeless. I fucked up what feels like the one chance I will ever have and I feel like I deserve a second chance.

Funds from this particular fundraising effort will go into my CashApp Savings and not be fucked with—if I have another need, I’ll make another post.

I’m setting the goal at $2,000. Here goes nothing.

CashApp and Venmo: allthetimesivedied

DM me for my friend’s PayPal.

Please write “Motel/Van” or something that will indicate to me that it’s for this fundraising effort, so I don’t spend it on a bong or chocolate milk or something.

Also share if you can.

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I'm sorry to post this again but since the last post I haven't gotten any help from my local support network, again I am in need of £70 but any amount that I can put towards this will help me and my family immensely

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If I keep on throwing out bread crumbs the fish will bite eventually? Or I'll find my way... Homeless....idk but I do know the city I'm in the city of let's say many bridges... Is making it almost impossible to get my id since I've never had one in this state, I'm on probation here trying to get off the streets, trying to get a job, trying to do something. But can't do that without id crazy as it sounds even my p.o. Can't seem to help get me an id WTF do they want me to do, how the fuck can I "better my situation" if they can't even help with an id I can work but things from the stores, ugh drive, fucking can't do anything and they know it they have me grid locked and fucking are using to there advantage in my probation, this shits fucked. So yeah with the fucking incredibly bad luck I've had lately I'm hoping so good random fortune is on the way healing from the car hit, jail, bull shit blah blah but thank anyone who had helped me so far hella positive vibrations your way or some woo Woo shit like that. But for real thanks. If anyone else wants to make a difference in someone's life right here right now is your chance cash app:$paresomelove thanks, stay up everyone.

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*Update: Having a bit of a medical emergency, have a hunch it’s due to an ulcer having been bleeding fairly consistently lately as i recognize the pain im having a bit - but also having other symptoms that are increasingly worrying and really could use help with transportation and Urgent Care costs + whatever comes with it. Not sure how much exactly but it’ll probably end up being 100-150+ by the end AT LEAST of figuring this out if anyone can please help/is able to spare anything. I know how hard it is for everyone atm now though.

Hello again everyone, hate having to make these posts and I really wish there was something else i could do :( For a quick recap ~ my wife and I are homeless and disabled, and lost pretty much all of our family over the past year and have no friends around so zero support system. We currently have been able to manage staying in a sleezy motel, and thanks to you guys have been able to stay off the streets thus far.

I was advised that I should perhaps start fundraising for next months rent a bit earlier so it isn’t a last minute desperate nail biting affair as to whether we’ll be on the street or not - for reference, again, it costs $55/day, $250/week, or $650/month if paid in advance. Any help is greatly appreciated and I can’t say enough how much it means to us. We’re in a really hard spot just in general as we lost half our food stamps and due to the stoppage of the Affordable Connectivity Program we’ve had to start paying for phone service as well which is extremely vital, and we do not have a vehicle and stay in an area lacking good public transport so we have to basically rideshare to anywhere we’ve got to go unless it is extremely close as I’m completely unable to walk most days and only can manage a short distance when I can due to an injury. This is just to say again, absolutely anything is greatly appreciated.

Have more or less given up on the laptop battery for now, but phone bills are due extremely soon which is absolutely vital! For both it’s about ~$90

For the bajillionth time because I can’t express this enough, thank you so much everyone. We should hopefully be out of this situation come November sometime. Fingers crossed 🥹❤️🚩

~ Just as an update, we’ve actually received around $250 total. Unless received somewhat in bulk/at once/close together it’s very hard to save as there’s a lot of other things we need help with but we’re doing our utmost to save what we can towards the upcoming room fee.

Cashapp- $goldenratio1123 PayPal ~ @ iwannadaisuki Can DM if having any trouble finding me on these platforms and for Venmo or Zelle.

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My friend lost his job due to some absolute bullshit and im scared for him

remote obviously

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Update from yesterday's post on needing help with my rent, thank you to everyone who has helped! I'm very close now, just 60 bucks away! I'm in awe at everyone's generosity and kindness, thank you to everyone who bumped the thread too! You're the kinds of people who would defend and aid a stranger from losing shelter - you're real heroes of the working class. I'm so grateful to share this world with you.

cri

Thank you for your solidarity!

Care-Comrade

CashApp: $justanotherbug

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submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by ClathrateG@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net
 
 

Hello, I'm a short about £70 due for rent and utilities, any amount that you can contribute will help me and my family enormously.

More details on request by DM

Thanks comrades rat-salute-2

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submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by RiotDoll@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net
 
 

I hurt my back trying to work out yesterday (son of a bitch)

I can barely move, and i have no ibuprofen or anything here.

I also need food, and because i'm gonna have to walk my ass to the same store either way I'd like to handle both things if possible, but i'm totally broke as shit.

if you can help, it would mean a lot. I have about $3 in total between my card and change, and that's not enough to get anything.

edit: thank you!!!! this community is very kind.

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update from yesterday's post - I got my paycheck and now know exactly how much I need to safely make rent, I'm just $180 away. Then I can settle my anxiety, work this new job, and finally unclench my jaw. Any help would mean a lot. Even if you can't help, thank you for your solidarity and love

heart-sickle

CashApp: $justanotherbug

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As mentioned on here previously, I'm going through a disability benefit appeal and have no money at all. So I have no way of getting any little thing I need. I'm very thankful to have been helped on here to get some food previously. I've run out of toiletries, I need toothpaste, dental floss, shampoo, soap, sanitary pads, laundry detergent, toilet paper and painkillers. However now the DWP (the nazis who run the UK benefit system) are checking people's bank accounts, I don't think I can dare to accept money any more in case I can't explain to them why people are paying me money. If anyone would be willing to help, I have an amazon wishlist, or the things i need could be ordered from Boots, or anywhere that does toiletries.

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Hey. My friend who recently moved to be able to transition has gotten her car stolen and lost the work she had gotten upon getting here. I'm a bit embarrassed not to be able to help her out much financially. If you could contribute, it would be really amazing. She's someone who's done a lot of work to build up community and help others out in the ways available to her.

It's also very difficult for her to ask for help directly. She wouldn't be doing so unless it was urgent and necessary. I hope that you can help her weather this crisis and protect the new life she's building for herself.

https://gofund.me/3d2ac532

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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/3602008

Ok so this one is an emergency post for an old partner and good friend of mine, she is a single mother of three works full time pays all her bills and buys food clothes and provides everything for her family all by her self. Now she has fallen on some hard times and could use some support from whomever and wherever she can do I'm doing a emergency fund raiser to get her power back on, you can send any donations to her and her family via my cash app just put : power bill on it ,$paresomelove thank anyone that helps her she's good people. Sorry almost forgot her bill is around 1200 she had to let it slide to pay rent.

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