Lobste.rs

This matches my experience in my career as well (various forms of IT into sysadmin/sysengineering), for what it's worth. Plenty of ways to express yourself and your individuality without bringing something that has strong sexual kink connotations into things.

And whatever your opinion on the fairness of it, you can't argue that furry art doesn't carry a strong strong association with the sexual fetish side of things.