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[–] Olgratin_Magmatoe@slrpnk.net 93 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (14 children)

This is absolutely a major contributing factor, but there's more to it than this. Everybody is lonely, pretty much regardless of gender. This issue hurts everyone.

And it is also caused in part because of how fucked up we've designed our society. It's nearly impossible to make friends as an adult because

  • we're all working too much to have the free time for it
  • there are (effectively) no third places where you can hang out with the expectation to meet people without the expectation of spending money
  • to get anywhere you generally need a car, highways and roads divide and spread everything which makes walking or biking difficult
  • social media is run for profit, not for the sake of actually connecting people
  • these above issues feed into the issue OP is pointing out. If you are lonely and your life isn't going too well, then you're gonna seek answers for this complicated issue. And fascists are all too willing to take advantage and provide simple answers. It then turns into a self feeding cycle.

I'm sure there's a bunch of other reasons too, but those are the ones of the top of my sleep deprived head. Even if all the above awful values men have disappeared, the above problems would still need to be fixed.

[–] Vinstaal0@feddit.nl 2 points 2 days ago (2 children)

There are loads of area’s where you can get around without a car, which increases area’s to be outside and meet others.

For a lot of people including me it is a choice to use the car as much as we do.

[–] timbuck2themoon@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Very, very dependent on where you are. You're on feddit.nl so I'll assume you live in the Nederlands. For... Most of the US, going without a car is either not really doable or you will absolutely miss out on going lots of places.

Really wish that wasn't the case but alas.

[–] Vinstaal0@feddit.nl 1 points 13 hours ago

If more people go with bike and/or walk you would have more infrastructure for it. Also keep annoying your local representatives.

Where there is a will there is a way.

Even in the US there are places that are inaccessible by car as far as I know. Then again some people in the US also have the BS abuse that wide bike lanes make it harder for fire trucks etc to get around ….

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