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Saw this one on Reddit (don’t judge haha) and thought I would see what the collective of Lemmy thought!!

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[–] TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago (2 children)

When people don't generally initiate a conversation with you, it means you're either not very attractive or attractive enough for a lot of people to be intimidated

[–] randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Interesting perspective. So it could still be a toss up on attractiveness. We shouldn’t assume sounds like the lesson here.

[–] TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ya kinda like how over and underwatering plants can share similar symptoms. If you ask a conventionally attractive person if they get asked out a lot, they will often say no because people expect them to either be in a relationship already or to be rejected.

what's important to remember at the end of the day is that you likely scratch the itch for some people out there. Some people are attracted to qualities that you may think are unattractive and a lot of the times being able to break the ice with someone puts you ahead of the vast majority of other people.

[–] randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

All of this makes complete sense. I hope others find your words of wisdom and take them to heart!!

Thank you so much for contributing!!

[–] TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Obligatory "I unno, don't quote me though"

[–] kender242@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

Yep. Balance. More generally it's all about social calibration. Get a good idea of where you are, then aim for the comfortable middle.