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1991 would have made Donny about 45 years old.
He was a 45yo man oogling 14year olds.
I never understood why the man’s age is important? Are we expected to be more forgiving of older pedos than younger ones? If he’s 18, 25, 35, non of those make it right. 14y is 14y end of story.
ETA: not sure where the downvotes are coming from, it looks like people think the age gap is more important than the fact that the girl is a minor. Or people think that I’m condoning this behaviour? Either way, I’m saying Pedo is pedo, doesn’t matter if the man is 18 or 88. And I’m saying man not boy. Different jurisdictions have different rules on how minors can interact with each other, this is not about that.
Also, I think is it’s telling for our patriarchy that the male age is seen as a factor. I would have hoped that by now we would see it more (or at least also) from the victim’s perspective.
One of my first truly disappointing days on Lemmy. I’ll just stay here to get the orange out, and then I’m out too.
Severity? Like, it’s worse the older you are.
If you’re 19, I’d be like “hey lil bro, you’re not in hs anymore. Chill.”
You’re 45? Public shaming and you should be kept as far away from children as possible, not given the keys to the fucking country.
I don’t get this logic. From the girl’s perspective both are abhorrent, and I can’t believe people upvote that “not in hs anymore”. I may be from a different cultural background. If it is my 14y daughter, I don’t give a fck if you’re 18 y old and 1 day.
It would be good to see it from the victims perspective not just the dude.
LOL. To add to what I said earlier, 7 European countries peg age of consent at 14. To my American mind, pretty gross, but the belief that we gain sexuality and agency on our 18th birthday is weird.
Speaking of agency...
Man how did this descent into a whataboutism thread of age of consent? Nothing to do with my question.
That applies to what minors can consent to within frameworks. It never gives a minor the ability to allow for an adult to have sexual interaction with them.
In case you’re new to this: If a 14y old rocks up to you and says wanna fck, presuming you’re the adult, their consent doesn’t matter. it wouldn’t matter if you had written permission from their parent or if both of you had a medical prescription for it.
And it’s a lot healthier for kids at 14 to be able to give or withdraw consent to each other to have sexual experiences rather then it to be outlawed outright. This way they are invited to explore how the law actually can help and protect them, they learn and can teach each other about consent, and it normalises sex so outside adult predators will be less successful at grooming them.
No law is suggesting that we only gain sexual agency at 18.
I think this entire thread is a mishap of lost in translation and lost in culture and conflating concepts of rape, paedophilia and consent.
Not to future readers: mid 2025 the word paedophilia was still red underlined on Apple devices. Go figure.