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It depends a lot on social context, but for some professions and hobbies, there are still strong lingering gender associations that are hard for people to shake. Examples below are my own observations of the state of things in the US and other countries I've been.
If I grab someone off the street and ask them to picture a nurse in their mind, 9 times out of 10, that nurse will be a woman. That statistic is reflected in the actual gender representation of nurses where I live. As a society, we consciously acknowledge that nursing is no longer an inherently gendered profession, and yet it is still seen as unusual for men to want to be nurses.
Similar is true in education. The vast majority of early childhood educators in the US are women because it was long held that women are natural caretakers of young children, while men are often stigmatized or seen as creepy for choosing to work with kids. Meanwhile, you get into higher education and find that a lot of universities are still patriarchal systems because men are scholars. Though when I was in China, there were a lot more early childhood educators who were men than there appear to be in the US, so this is not necessarily a universal standard either.
It's normal for men and women alike to enjoy cooking, but for some reason it is still faintly stigmatized for men to like cooking for themselves or women to want to get paid for it. Most professional chefs are still men, while cooking at home is seen as a woman's work.
For hobbies, there are a lot of gender overlaps, but depending on the specific hobby, you may still find mostly men or mostly women engaging with it. Video games used to be seen as something only boys cared about, but now I think it's fairly gender neutral. Yet if you're interested in book clubs, prepare for it to be mostly women. Or if you like fishing, it's mostly men, and of course serves as traditional father/son bonding time. I've also never met a woman who enjoys playing Warhammer, though I have to imagine they're out there somewhere.
These are all things that I believe should not be, but nevertheless are. I have no idea why this continues to be the case today, but I think is slowly but surely self-correcting as more people consider the absurdity of applying gender binaries to activities that are not inherently gendered.