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Worry less about your age, their age and what people think. Focus more on what will make you happy. If you feel like dating someone in their early 20s is not predatory, then go for it. Remember, some 20 year olds will be less mature, too.
Yeah I feel attracted to men in their early to mid twenties, but given my age I'm worried it'll come off as predatory. It doesn't feel like there's up to nearly a decade of difference.
if no one believes your real age then no one's gonna think it's predatory
Dating someone in their 20s as a 30 year old is not predatory unless you're preying on them (taking advantage of them by welding power over them or using their inexperience against them). It does not sound like you will be preying on them. Right now, focus on finding someone you like, their exact age doesn't matter like you think it does.
So it's more like you're into someone younger and you want to ask if it's ok to date them? That depends on other circumstances, not just the age.
Most 20 year olds are less mature, not some. It's predatory.
it's not like 20 year olds are immature, come on
20 vs 30 is nothing, most people still struggle to accept that they're adults at 30...
OP specified that, due to mental haze in their 20s related to their health issues, they mentally feel closer to 20.
Most 20 year olds are less mature than a 30 yo. What I mean is that some 20 yo are less mature than a typical 20 yo. Some are more mature.
Op could be predatory, but it's not predatory by virtue of age alone. there is also a big difference with, say, an 18yo. Or conversely a 23 yo. After 20, a 10 year gap is no big deal.
There are predatory relationships at all ages. From OPs description, this is not the relationship type they are looking for, as they themselves feel less mature. I'd say 25 to 18 is worse than 30 to 20. It's not the age gap that matters but the maturity difference and power imbalance.
In context, I suspect they meant to say some 30 year olds will be less mature, rather than saying look at a less mature age group, then go even lower