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Aside from the PTSD someone else mentioned, the number one predictor of the development of a cluster b personality disorder is a childhood with a "consistently inconsistent pattern of invalidation."
In layman's terms, for most of this persons childhood there were both times where the child was validated and accepted, but at other times they were rejected / told that their lived experience was unimportant / fake. And that intermittent pattern kept occurring over most of their childhood. And that's pretty much an exact description of a lot of trans kid's childhoods.
There's also a common argument that the invalidation is actually just a form of trauma, but personally I ascribe to the furthering of that train of thought that BPD is just a specific and particularly complicated form of PTSD.
In the end through you can't deny that it often results in some people that take a lot more emotional energy to interact with than your average person, and that society often makes it really hard to budget our energy in ways that allow us to give it to them.
I don't have a solution to that problem, at least not one I can explain in more than the next few paragraphs. I just hope pointing out that that's what the problem is helps people reframe their frustrations in a way that's more constructive.
I have tried working on !DIYMentalHealth@lemmy.dbzer0.com if anyone is interested in specific mental health tips, but I'm still in the process of... building the community I guess? I'm not much of a fighter so most of my contribution to a better tomorrow will probably be in helping the people who are good at that kind of thing stay healthier themselves.
That's quite interesting, I've always enjoyed learning more about how humans think and why they think certain ways. I will say though this does make sense, though some of the kids who's parents actually understood, (remember anyone young today, this was a drastically more "under the rug" thing back before 2015ish) and supported them, those were the most messed up ones. To be fair though, that's probably just due to my town being an absolute anomaly.
We were known for being kinda... Weird, compared to the surrounding towns