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What common skill do you not have? (piefed.blahaj.zone)
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[–] lvxferre@mander.xyz 1 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I'm not neurodiverse myself but I suspect I was raised by one; my mum ticks quite a few boxes for the autism spectrum. Plus I think my high myopia since childhood played a role, my "world" is two palms from my face.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Could be, it's worth goggling different conditions and seeing if you fit. I didn't think I was until I got diagnosed

[–] lvxferre@mander.xyz 1 points 3 weeks ago

That's actually why I suspect my mum is neurodiverse - because initially I did suspect I was, and websearched the conditions. But then as I looked at them, my reaction was mostly "I don't do this... wait, that's her"*, and the only criteria that applied to me also applied to her. Then some time later, as I was treating my depression, I asked the psychiatrist about the possibility I was in the autism spectrum; he said "don't worry, you're clearly not".

*not keeping eye contact; not noticing when others are hurt or upset; not responding to her name; failure to understand simple questions (NGL, this drives everyone around her crazy); struggling to even get if the question is directed towards her or someone else, etc. They aren't age-related issues because a lot of them were already present across my childhood, or relate to things my grandma mentioned about her childhood. She also has a hard time with implicatures; I never saw this being listed as a condition, but I do suspect it's a common issue among autists.

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago

When did we stop saying neurodivergent? I did not get the memo.

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Auticate channel on YouTube was a game changer for me

[–] lvxferre@mander.xyz 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm checking it out now - thanks for the rec!

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Let me know what you think!

[–] lvxferre@mander.xyz 2 points 3 weeks ago

I watched a few videos of the channel. I'll link it here for the others, it's some damn great resource, this couple is doing some amazing public service.

And it kind of confirms what I suspected - I'm not autistic, just raised by one (my mum). For example, this video shows it rather well for me:

  • I'm not exactly sociable, but I don't really struggle with group collab or social situations.
  • I'm actually quick to get implicatures (implied meaning).
  • If anything, people complain my eye contact is "piercing" - I tend to make a lot of eye contact while speaking.
  • I'm not really annoyed by changes in routine, interruptions, or multi-step tasks.
  • etc.

I do get pissed at being misunderstood, but I believe this is common for all people; nobody likes it, but I think for autists this might be specially aggravating because they get misunderstood far more often.