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...Privilege. The answer to your question is privilege. You have been benefitting for your entire life from a system designed and supported across the centuries by men, for men. You don't even realise how much you've been benefitting. Based on your first comment, you think a woman being able, or forced, to provide for herself is stripping you of dignity.
A rich man sees a poor man get robbed, and simply walks away. The poor man condemns the rich man for his apathy. The rich man argues "it's not like I'm the one who robbed you." But the rich man still isn't helping.
That's not what I think, and it isn't what I said. The "system" assigned gender roles: women raise children and keep house, men sell their labor to provide for the family. Women's lib has changed the parts of that system that degraded women, while quietly ignoring the privileges women had, like not being forced to die in the wars that were much more commonplace through those centuries, for example.
I have no problems with women having the opportunity to provide for themselves, in fact I was very explicit that I think it's good long term. The issue I raised wasn't the abandonment of gender roles, it's the selective abandonment of gender roles. Specifically, women who want men to fulfill the provider role while refusing to fulfill their complementary role.
Being treated as an unlimited ATM, with zero commitment or reciprocity, is degrading. I cannot count the number of women I've known who want to work and keep their money, but still expect men to pay for everything, while also being free to move on to a more exciting man the second the whim strikes them. That's a new privilege.
If we're going to hold all men emotionally responsible for the hate women feel because of the way some men treat women, it's misandrist to not hold all women emotionally responsible for the way some women treat men.