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Have done, it didn't go well, but the failure of our relationship had nothing to do with her previous work in the sex industry and instead was because of our life expectation differences.
She was pretty attractive, but she expected right out of the gate for whoever she was with taking care of her and providing for her and doing everything where she had to contribute nothing, and I was not willing to do that.
We fizzled out in, like, 90 days.
that just sounds like she was looking for a sugar ~~daddy~~ parent at that point
Yeah, that's about how it went.
At first it was simple stuff, the things I expected like paying for meals and maybe the occasional inexpensive gift, but about 6 weeks in she came at me with, "I'm getting evicted unless I can come up with $1,000 for rent" and my response was, "Damn. Think you can get a job or something?"
She didn't like that response, but it didn't even cross my mind that she was attempting to get me to pay her rent for her until quite a while later, and I was not gonna do that.
Not long after she came at me with the "why don't I move in with you?" and my response was, "we've only been dating for two months. I think that's a little quick to be moving in together".
About two weeks later, it was over.
I hope everything worked out for her. She was a perfectly nice person and I'm definitely okay with being the provider.
I make good money. I've bought my own home in an expensive cost of living area. I'm good on that regard, but if I'm going to be taking on a stay-at-home gf situation, I don't know.
I need a little more than two months of dating, that's all. I need to have gone through some shit with that person before we're moving in together.
Sounds like you were being fair, and setting reasonable boundaries. I’m glad you didn’t let her move in. I imagine that other issues would have presented themselves not long after.