I'd like to point at that at no point have I suggested "just as rude" and on at least a few occasions have specifically said there's there's a hefty difference.

Assholes are everywhere and they like to target the marginalized. Believe me I understand. But does being treated like shit mean someone is given license to be crappy to others? Isn't that what the whole "an eye for an eye makes the world blind" phrase about?

Since I've been here I've had a variety of words put in my mouth so I could be judged for them. I'll admit that there's sure to be things I could've communicated better.

The "real issue" is also reading in more than intended. I didn't expect I needed to say "I agree with all of this except...". Maybe that's on me but I'm not in the habit of qualifying everything I say beforehand. I don't think a big part of the internet is either.