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Do some women with sexual experience date a virgin? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 2 days ago by Grimreaper@sopuli.xyz to c/askmen@lemmy.world

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I made a post on Showerthoughts saying if you are a guy and you are a virgin at 22 years old, you are fucked because most women in their 20s have sexual experience, so if you are a 22-year-old guy, a woman who’s 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, or 30 wouldn’t want to date you because they have sexual experience already.

However, I could be wrong, so do some women with sexual experience date a virgin? If so, why?

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[–] insomniac_lemon@lemmy.cafe 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I would say there are a lot of indirect reasons related, particularly if we assume most in that situation are probably not going to get some massive change to those factors (even in a year).

More direct, it's very likely (and understandable) that someone might just say "I don't want to deal with this shit again" especially before forming any sort of attachment. Heck, "I'm not your therapist" is a sentiment that already exists relating to dudes who have been in relationships.

That said, 22 is a low number for this context and OP is definitely weirdly obsessed with it.

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Being in the mid 20s and not having banged someone can also be a sign of poor attitudes towards the opposite sex. Like incels and femcels.

But that will be a much greater red flag to a relationship then being a virgin.

[–] Grimreaper@sopuli.xyz 0 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Being in the mid 20s and not having banged someone can also be a sign of poor attitudes towards the opposite sex. Like incels and femcels.

What if someone was homeschooled for all of their childhood, and they didn't have the opportunity to date or have sex? What if a kid grew up in a super religious household, and their parents shamed them relentlessly for even thinking about having sex?

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Then that sounds like a bad environment for a childs social development and who knows what kind of other effects that will have on future relationships.