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I'm kinda thinking that your strategy is too expensive. Like, you say
In my opinion, love is expensive and a lot of people simply can't afford it, i.e. they don't have the emotional carrying-capacity that it takes. You need a lot of patience to deal with difficult people, and i mean a lot of it. Ain't nobody got the time for that.
I wonder how economics plays into this. Anyways, any strategy that works must respect the economics of the game and be at least somewhat efficient overall. For example, shutting out news media from your field of vision and only listening to local news that your neighbors tell you (as i explained in another comment in this thread) is more efficient because you waste less time going through the potentially infinite amounts of bullshit that "news" media throw at you, and instead give you more time to focus on your local community; one where you will actually be rewarded if you make it thrive, because you're more directly affected by it.
Im not saying give them a handy. Im saying look past the argument and go straight for remediation. Concede the argument immediately, and the moment you attempt to soothe them they will hesitate.
that's actually what i do a lot of the time :)
really, arguments are often very superficial. humans use them to protect themselves because they feel that they need to protect themselves. a lot of the time it's much better to care about the human directly, instead of even bothering with whatever arguments they try to bring up as excuses.