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It's a category mistake. I used to be like OP. Why? I was horrible depressed and miserable almost 24/7. Drugs, sex and alchohol and other 'highs' were the only thing that could break through that misery to make me feel good at all.
The issue was my living situation. Once I got out of college and lived on my own, had a job, I no longer need substances or sex to feel good. I just felt good everyday generally because I wasn't subject to the endless stress of my family and dorm social life destroying my emotional well being. Also exercise, eating right, and having a balanced life of work/hobbies/leisure.
Point is you have to change your life and establish good habits and it's a lot easier to be happy. A lot of people actively refuse to do this however, and just cope endlessly with substance abuse or other mechanisms.