You're not dating the right women man. The ones I date don't care about that stuff. They care about having shared interests, talking about emotional stuff, building a connection. My previous 3 partners I broke the relationship because they didn't respect my boundaries, they all want me back. They loved the sex, my previous partner, one who had many before me, told me I could give her the best orgasm ever, by far. The ones before also said I performed beter then they ever had. All because I learned techniques, even though I'm above the Dutch national average size wise. Size does help a lot, but it's about what you do with it. While my best technique is oral. I try to learn her body, her triggers, and play with that. Edging is really great, plus knowing to find the g spot, and of course the clitoris. But the whole body is covered with sensitive spots, knowing which one to stimulate when is key. Watch some tutorials from Nina Hartley, I learned a lot from it. Also there was a program on state television when I was younger called "neuken doe je zo" (this is how you fuck). I can't remember the other tutorials but there are more. Just don't use porn as a reference.

All my previous partners don't care about cars, expensive presents, etc. They care about my brain and how I treat them: with care and respect. I can be vulnerable and don't mind taking about hard things so they all still come to me when they are feeling down because even though we broke up I'm still there for them during hard times. And they are there for me too.

If anyone only cares about money and fame, they are just using you and not the right partner.