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hey thanks for the response.
yes i am looking for a romantic connection, and also for friends. I have tried the main dating apps but i never get a match or have gotten a match just to be insulted for my looks. also, im pansexual so i'm not just looking for a strictly dating a women. out where i am on my street, people here are.....not nice. I'm living with my parents currently because i was kicked out of my ex's place after she ended things with me over 11 years, but the signs were there. Once i am on disability, i do plan to move more into the closer town that is much bigger, but that doesn't mean ill be open to meeting people, as disability doesn't pay much. there's apart of me saying i should just accept my fate of being alone and just living like that, and i have tried to do that as best i can, but i end up just feeling lonely still.
i mean you're weirdo and your on disability... most people aren't interested in dating any of that.
also if you are male, you're straight up fucked. if you were a woman it's much more socially acceptable for you to be a dependent.
most people look down on men that are not providers. literally your best chance of increasing your romantic and social opportunities is to make more money. if you don't want to do that... well then yes you better learn to be happy alone.
I make 150K a year and most women I date don't think I make enough money to be considerable dateble. I'm also handsome, tall, and highly educated. Most women I meet are looking for a guy who makes 2-3x what I do, and living a far more lavish lifestyle than I desire.
How can you go around calling someone you know nothing about a weirdo? Because they're pansexual? Because they have some sort of disability?
That is extremely callous and shortsighted. Please try to remember the human. By the sound of it, the money is not the reason women don't consider you particularly dateable. Look up empathy and see if you can improve yours.
It's true.
The world is callous and shortsighted. Pretending it isn't is just being naive and seeking to protect your feelings from a harsh social reality. Empathy has nothing to do with, but you seem to mistake empathy as 'bullshitting people to make them feel good and delude them about their situation'. Rather than informing them of the reality of their circumstances and their choices.
Cynic.
right, call me names because that makes you feel good right? again, protect your feelings at all costs.
not sure how to respond to this, but thanks for the response.
I'm a weirdo who's on disability and have had great experiences with dating apps. I found half of my peer group there and some short-term relationships. I'm a bi woman, so your mileage may vary obviously, but in my experience the queer dating scene is a bit easier in that regard, even though I can't comment on male dating.
I was very lonely and isolated for a long time and pretty much thought I'm just gonna be alone. In general I try to be open about my baggage and other people with perhaps similar backgrounds appreciate that. Once I found them life got really pleasant.
I've used pretty much all the apps with varying success. I had a better experience with the not so famous apps like Boo, Hiki (for neurodivergent people) or HER (lesbian app). I think I am an outlier here though, because most people I know get jaded from online dating really quickly, I've been doing it on and off for 5 years now. Sometimes I don't really get many matches, half a year later it's better. So if online dating isn't for you that's fair, but if it is, maybe you can find an app with like-minded people as well.
Hey thanks for the response. I'll try thoese other apps, just haven't been having luck on the main ones. And fix to know there's fellow weirdos out there!