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Everyone saying they'd be for it, wouldn't be for it if the 22 year old was your lil sister and the 28 year old was the guy, and he wants to fly her to other states and maybe out of country. You're rightly concerned that she is being coerced into certain sexual acts to earn her way back home (if she'll be allowed to return to her family) and that these acts will be recorded and held over her so if she tries to advance socially, financially, or politically, they can be weaponised against her. Financial abuse 101 with a side of trafficking.

As the guy you think you have the power since the one with more money is female. You think that evens it out. But she has friends. She could get a rich man and probably already has. Maybe it's the rich man playing you, he just wants to control you via proxy. You think she's holding your leash but it's really him. Maybe she doesn't even have the six figure job, maybe she's another victim, but she's the bait.

I'm fine with age gap. When I was 19-20 I was good friends with a woman in her early 30s and a woman in her late 40s. They both had decent money. I was trying to hook up with the older one. The one in her 30s was bipolar and had a long-term boyfriend who could kick my ass, but he worked long hours and she wanted me as her side piece. The older one was a widow who wasn't ready to get back into the game, but she was very kind and accommodating and often took me out to lunch or dinner or back to hers for drinks, but wouldn't let me take her back to her room or even get a hand up her shirt. Not that I was pushy, but I did let her know the option was there, and didn't press when she left it on the table. The other woman on the other hand... well, she'd also take me out, take me back to hers, and next thing I know she's naked, touching herself, and all but saying "come get me." Maybe I was a fool to say no and nope on out of there, maybe I was wise, who knows. She was a good friend, a fun friend, but maybe a little dangerous. She ended up leaving that guy, got another guy, got married, settled down... and moved away. All for the best I think.

Now I'm the age the older of the two women was. Ain't no way in hell I'd mess with a girl as young as I was then. I guess it's different, but then again, it seems like a lot of men my age would go for someone that young. "She's legal," they'd say. Legal doesn't matter to me. "Legal" is too young. Hell, 30 is too young. I have friends now, ironically, who are in their early 20s and mid-30s. They're too young for me. We get along, I'd love to hang out with them more, but they both feel too young as far as attraction goes.