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"When do I start feeling like an adult?"
That's the neat part! You don't!
what does adult mean anyway?
like the traditional markers of adulthood as in home ownership, family, etc. ?
or just a self of responsibility?
If we strip the externally-imposed milestones and accomplishment domarisons, we're left with basic stuff like the skills required to cope in a society with other individuals, make decisions and be responsible for those decisions, and manage (not achieve, but manage) basic needs.
It's bullshit, but that's close, right?
when I ask myself whether others - or me too - are achieving these intrinsic requirements, I'm not often impressed. But that's a target to work toward, anyway.
No it's not bullshit. I just don't see those skills as adult. i had them at like six years old.
but i will admit most people probably didn't have the level of self-determination i had from a very young age. and i meet people regularly in my 30s/40s now who still lack a lot of basic life-skills like understanding the consequences of their actions, and who seem to be eternally seeking some sort of parental figure to do their executive functioning for them. Whether it be a partner as a parent, or a self-help guru who has the 'answers'.