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My age says I'm an adult but sometimes I think other people know more about being an adult than me.

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[–] lennybird@lemmy.world 8 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Many of the traits of childhood are wonderful and you should cling to them. Sense of wonder and curiosity, goofiness, don't take yourself too seriousky, adventure, physicality, etc.

I think I get what you're saying, that sometimes one wonders if relative to some of your peers of you're "achieving" enough. That's a trickier question because some introspection from this is good.

  • Are you truly content?
  • Is your future somewhat secured? (forward-thinking with finances, career, health). Or are you doing the more reckless Yolo teenage thing? (this aspect of being a child, especially if one has kids, I'd say isn't good lol).
[–] stringere@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

What if you're just staggering through because life won't stop shitting on your family? Every time we get above water something else catastrophic happens. Couldn't even get our kitchen and bathrooms fixed from water damage with the paltry insurance payment we got and then the basement ceiling and imsulation got soaked from external water. No way can we report that to insuramce because they will drop us and we'll be fucked into a higher rate. Don't use State Farm. Cunts.

[–] stringere@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Oh yeah, and the floors we paid to have redone 3 years ago? Already buckling and peeling. Warranty replacement has been in process for over a month now but at least there's a glimmer of hope we'll get something from it.

[–] bradorsomething@ttrpg.network 1 points 25 minutes ago

I’ve started making claim email chains with the state ombudsman cc’d in the first email. Saves so much time.