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Zero times over my life.
I had great parents, who had a rule that I could just tell them any fuck ups and mistakes and they wouldn't get angry and help me.
On the other hand, I was an incredibly boring teenager whose worst bad habits were staying up too late reading books in bed.
Same, never got searched. It was a shock when I got older and learned that some kids regularly had their rooms turned over. The idea had never occurred to me that this could even be a thing, because I always felt safe in my room and felt my 'secrets' were safe too - even if they were mostly harmless secrets.
I was also not a kid who caused much trouble however, and you might argue "well there's the reason."
That might be true, but i think it's mostly the other way around.
The one time as an older child I actually did something pretty bad, my friends all got grounded by their parents, but I didn't. My mum just looked me in the eyes after I'd confessed, and said "Don't do that again" - and I felt so disappointed in myself that I knew I wouldn't. I didn't need to be grounded, because I loved my mother and cared what she thought, and the regret I felt in that moment was punishment enough.
If you ransack your kid's room on the regular, you'll only create a person who grows up to resent you, and learns to hide from you and lie to you. Everyone deserves a place they feel safe in, and is theirs, even children.
Can confirm.