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As a guy who’s half European and half Arabian, no I don’t feel comfortable expressing emotions or feelings. Each time I have done that, I get shit for it back.
“Man up”, “that’s just life” and “I know you’ll push through it”. Is what I hear. They rather have me be aggressive than to be emotional more often than not. While I’m trying to get rid of my anger issues.
So instead of expressing emotions, I just put it all in a diary. Never thought I’d be using one but it truly helps.
Relatable; as guy who grew up in a Chinese household, I always get told: "男子漢大丈夫，流血不流淚" (Think it translates to: True men can let their blood bleed and will not shred their tears... ?)
So that how I got interested in writing poetry and listening to music... very emotional and sometimes outright depressing music
Relatable; as a guy who grew up in a US Midwest WASP household, I always got told to man up, be strong, fight back, and if someone hurts your feelings it's 100% your fault for letting them.
I was on this planet almost 4 decades before I finally got therapy and learned how important it is for humans to talk about their feelings.
It's still unnatural and hard but at least I know how to do it now and it doesn't eat me up inside and make for random angry outbursts.
Seriously, by default males should get emotional counseling in school as a preventative measure.
I was tired of getting bullied so I took it literally.
I fought in self-defence and ended up in the local police station for a few hours
ACAB btw
Not sure if my mom got prouder at me for standing up for myself or got mad for "causing trouble". She did get very defensive on behalf of me when the verbal confrontation with the school staff happened during the parent-teacher discussion thing, and in the juvenile court system.
I think I might have mommy issues...
I probably needed that. Stupid racist bully wasted me so much time.
But then again maybe this result is actually a good thing, cuz the next time they see an Asian they want to harass, they'd think twice before trying anything.
My father taught martial arts
I was in middle school when I got bullied for being a shy introverted bookish geeky nerd. Bully ended up getting thrown in a damn good (if I may say so) Ippon seoi nage. Looked impressive AF to onlookers & freaked him out.
I wasn't actually any good I got super lucky but after that people decided I "know karate shit" and kept away