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Be the change you want to see in the world. Sometimes it has to be introduced slowly and with compassion, sometimes it has to be radical as it can be urgent. Even in African villages where men are committing suicide, they create safe spaces to talk about their feelings. (I think this is one of the videos on the topic - can't watch it due to age gate).
It's not easy and everybody's path is different. If you can't find somebody locally (friend(s) or therapist), you can start online. It helped me too. But always try and stay critical. Many self-help groups for me are taken over by right-wingers who say "you can be yourself here", make men feel safe and then give them a scapegoat (immigrants, women, whatever) and spread hate towards other groups.
I was very lucky to grow up in the environment and places I did, and recognise that not everybody can be so lucky.
Best of luck and hope that you will be able to make those connections that allow you express your feelings ❤️ Emotions are human.