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As a guy, I never really felt comfortable saying those things to anyone irl.

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[โ€“] FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Men and women lie when they say they want you to express yourself more. Whether they intend to or not, they get angry or sad about you burdening them with knowledge of your own experiences. Many will atore away anything you confide with them, so they can use it against you further down the line.

[โ€“] FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago

Sometimes people act like they're helping but it means they just bring up your problem again and again and confuse you as to what you really want to do about it. This could absolutely be done on accident, in an eagerness to help, but i also see it done deliberatrly by a few, just to pester people