Programming

you're really nitpicking my English

Mate, the hardest part of software development is communication and autism is ubiquitous — got a touch myself. So I over explain and I'm very specific. But let me make one thing abundantly clear: I don't have time to spend this many words trying to be a pedantic asshole. I have much better things to do with my time. If you don't like my approach, feel free not to engage, but I'm here trying to distill some value for you out of my experience.

Now, I don't put too much stock in up and down votes (and to be clear none of your downvotes is from me — I don't waste time responding to stuff I downvote), but the pattern suggests that what I've said resonates with other developers.

So of course I'm more curious to understand how to solve situations when you do have conflict, if you don't it's easy.

So here's the disconnect: you're worrying about shifting burdens like it's a huge weight, but conflict is exceedingly rare — too rare to worry about. It's a non-consideration.

I'm going to leave it there because I think anything else would just be repeating myself.