Ask Lemmy

There's so many variables to each persons threadiverse experience that its difficult to quantify another's experience. I don;t think there is an objective default experience. It depends on what instance your on, which also might dictate which software as the two main players don;t have feature parity, it then depends on how you use the available tools each software type has, how you sort your feeds, which communities you're subbed to, how willing you are to simply block and move on, what your own beliefs are and what sort of experience you expect.

You'll only think its a ghost town if you are someone who spends the majority of their time on social media. The flip side of that is that there's also a sizeable amount of people who might simply check in once or twice a day. To them, its not a ghost town at all.

You'll only think its full of hate if you're not prepared to be on an instance that curates the hate away and you combine that with liberal use of blocking tools when some gets through.

And there are lots of other wider societal issues going on too - Westernised countries (which includes the majority of users I see on here) are largely descending into right-wing, xtian-fuelled, uber-capitalism, bigoted hellscapes and lots of people are understandably scared and angry about that. Scared and angry people lash out. Doesn't excuse it a as behaviour but I don't think growing fear and anger is a threadiverse-specific issue at all.

The answer is that there is no one-sized fits all answer beyond finding the best fit for yourself in terms of instance/software/tools/feeds and posting/commenting on more of what you personally enjoy and maybe lessen the time you spend on here and social media generally. It doesn't have to be always on, just something you do alongside other things like reading a book, going for a walk etc.