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My (19F/NB) friend (17F) rejected me and said I was her good friend basically. She also seems to prefer guys and see herself with men because she only talks about having guy crushes and wanting a boyfriend or if a friend asks if she's dating anyone yet, she says "No I don't have a boyfriend". I'm gonna stop confessing to people and letting them come to me first...

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[–] Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works 5 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

It takes courage to ask, but also getting rejected doesn't mean you failed. For these things to work two people both have to want it and that doesn't always happen. Getting rejected also gives you something really valuable though, experience in handling rejection and clarity about the situation. Get good at it and stop fearing rejection and it will be easier to find your person.

I understand that it doesn't make it better now though and I'm sorry for your pain. Good luck to you and don't lose the courage that allowed you to make that first move and get your answer even if it wasn't the one you wanted.