Klarinette245

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submitted 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) by Klarinette245@feddit.org to c/lesbians@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

She said she wants to do bad stuff to my friend, she said she wants to hurt me, she twists the narrative so she, her new boyfriend, and all her friends think I'm an abusive bully, an incel, and a loser who's "nothing without her". They like the idea of seeing me traumatized, crying, and/or dead.

she faked having a disorder, she said we could still be friends but even to this day, continues to talk crap about me. she is also mean to me because of my mental illness and disability, saying that autistic people weird her out. she never talks about what she did wrong. now, i understand that i did things wrong. i had anger issues, i probably snapped at her sometimes, i didn't fit into her mold of perfection and i had constant breakdowns, but i don't deserve to be threatened and have her tell her friends that i deserve to be tortured and hurt.

they also thought i killed myself and was happy about that. she also justifies her obsession with wanting to psychologically and physically abuse me by saying it's my "karma".

she also, which is the least of my concern, turned into a homophobe when we broke up despite she herself being bi and she/they pronouns.

[–] Klarinette245@feddit.org 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

No like in the future, she may or may not plan to have biological children

[–] Klarinette245@feddit.org 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Thank you 🙏 She is the worst ex I’ve ever had, always has to be the victim

 

So I (19F) have an ex (21F). She threw me out when I was no longer useful to her and seems to always want to be the center of attention. She shows signs of Cluster B disorders just in general, and she tried to make me seem like the bad guy by claiming I abused her, sexually harassed her, beat her up, and said I should go get raped and die.

She also said "men when you hate them" even though I'm not a man, she keeps misgendering me.

[–] Klarinette245@feddit.org 9 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Update again: Taking everyone's advice, I asked my gf if she would agree to just stay friends

[–] Klarinette245@feddit.org 2 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Nah, probably not but that’s a funny asf coincidence 😂

I’m not that depressed about it fortunately

 

So this may sound silly. I (19F) posted about how my girlfriend (18F) doesn't see a future with me and instead is planning to marry a guy. She also may have biological children in the future and talks about it sometimes. Now, part of it is because her family will apparently hate her if she ever marries/has a long-term relationship with a woman, but the other half, I'm not too sure. Yesterday when we saw each other and we were hanging out with our aroace friend (almost 21NB), my girlfriend says she's had crushes on women and men, so she considers herself bisexual, but she also talks about her crushes on women in the past and stuff and says "I don't know if I actually saw them as more than a friend".

I probably shouldn't feel insecure, but given everything she's talked about, I feel like she might see me as just a friend and just THOUGHT she liked me but she continues to date me, so I don't know. Liking men and all, she hardly talks about attractive women either as she doesn't know if she has crushes on them and she usually talks about attractive men and stuff.

 

My (19F/NB) friend (17F) rejected me and said I was her good friend basically. She also seems to prefer guys and see herself with men because she only talks about having guy crushes and wanting a boyfriend or if a friend asks if she's dating anyone yet, she says "No I don't have a boyfriend". I'm gonna stop confessing to people and letting them come to me first...

[–] Klarinette245@feddit.org 3 points 4 days ago

Yeah, I confessed to get it off my chest and she basically said "Sorry but let's just be friends"

 

Now, realistically, we're probably not gonna last forever. We're 18 and 19 years old. But whenever marriage is brought up somehow, even when it's around non-homophobic people or queer people themselves, she always says "he", "my future husband", "If I get married, I hope it'll be to a man/guy who does ____."

My girlfriend is bisexual and with the fact that we likely won't last to get married, I understand this, but I feel confused and also a little sad for some reason because I'm not a man. IDK why I feel like this, I know it's irrational and that she loves me, not a guy, so why do I feel this way?

[–] Klarinette245@feddit.org 1 points 4 days ago

Ahhhh, du hast recht. Danke!

 

Ich weiß weil sie diesen Typen mag... ich bin kein Mann...

:((

Nun, wir können Freunde sein, aber es ist trotzdem nervig.

 

Ich hoffe, die Leute nutzen es...

!offmychest_DE@feddit.org

 

So I asked Emma (17F) if her crush that she told me about liked her back and she said "I dunno yet" rather than "I don't like him anymore" so I think I should move on and wait and see if I like her still when she's 18+ and graduated high school.

 

So I (19F/NB) like this girl "Emma" (17F) that I used to date, but she isn't ready to date until she graduates high school. She's a senior and I graduated last year. While I won't ask her out as she needs to work on herself, she said, she definitely flirts and cuddles with me and for sure likes guys, fictional or real, as she has many crushes on them, but IDK if she still likes girls because she may be still figuring herself out.

Update as I write this: It shows her character with a bi flag on one of her videos with a girl in red song so that's a huge giveaway but I'll still ask so I don't seem like a creep.

[–] Klarinette245@feddit.org 2 points 1 week ago

Thank you :) I will definitely tell her. First, I will ask if she even likes girls

[–] Klarinette245@feddit.org 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Thanks. IDK if she likes me or not, she usually crushes on men nowadays, that's why I don't know if she still likes girls or not. Darn this stupid crush LOL... She flirts with me, but she's quite close with all her friends and we used to DATE for crying out loud. So, yeah, I dunno, but I know that even if she does have feelings for me she won't say yes if I ask her out because she's waiting until college/graduation. So I'm gonna try again closer to when I turn 20 if she's ready to date or just let the feelings die once and for all.

[–] Klarinette245@feddit.org 3 points 1 week ago

You're right. TYSM. My dad also thinks it's the woman's fault for having an unwanted pregnancy because she had sex

[–] Klarinette245@feddit.org 4 points 1 week ago

Thank you. My dad, sadly, is super Conservative in the American sense as we live in the U.S.

 

Especially with my dad. I can't swear or bring up anything sexual around him, who I live with, even if it's a sexual harassment experience because "I caused it" and it was my fault, or at least he used to say that. So did an aunt of mine, his annoying sister. He says also because I'm a woman, I can't swear or say anything sexual.

I think people should be able to bring up dark topics and sexual stuff, even if it directly happened to them and they want to express themselves. Kids should be able to and women should too.

[–] Klarinette245@feddit.org 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Thank you. I have asked, and he just keeps saying hes fine in a grumpy tone. I just want my old friend back, but sadly he probably was depressed for a long time and I’m just seeing it more

 

So, my friend Steve insists that he is fine but always seems angry/talks in an annoyed or frustrated tone and it makes me sad. He doesn’t seem to care about anything and he says he cares about me but he’s so dry, usually depressed, and doesn’t wanna talk about it, insisting he’s fine and doesn’t talk to me at ALL. It’s really draining but I feel like a bad person. I wanna be there for him but I just feel like I’m bothering Steve.

 

When I was 17 (NB) I dated “Emma” (15F). We broke up when she was 16 and I had just turned 18. She said she wasn’t a good girlfriend, but I think differently. I think I was a bad partner.

I feel a nervous, tingling sensation in my chest and stomach when I think about Emma, and sometimes my face gets hot. I wouldn’t mind kissing her and I miss our relationship a little, but it’s also okay for me to just be friends, because I don’t know if she still likes girls/non-binary people.

What should I do? Do I still like her romantically? I have a girlfriend and queerplatonic partner, but I am also polyamorous.

I would either not risk making my girlfriend especially upset and not say anything because Emma doesn’t wanna date anyone, or I’d get it off my chest.

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